Hello
Hope everyone is well.
Did anyone TTC and carry a healthy pregnancy to term fairly soon after having an abortion, I’m talking anywhere from a few months after to 2 years after?
Recently had a very early medical termination. We are young and weren’t planning to try until the end of the year which makes a big difference with respect to our timeline- we’re hoping to buy a house in the summer and that was my main reason as we can’t deplete our savings too much at this point whilst still renting. Other reasons included enjoying more time as a couple as we’ve only been together 3 years. I didn’t give myself much time to make the decision because I knew it would be harder mentally to go through with terminating if I noticed any symptoms. In the event I was only two days late for my period when I took the last 6 tablets.
I’m really sad about this choice and have come to realise that holidays and other things seem to fade into insignificance when I look at what I want from life. I was worried I wouldn’t be able to provide due to being so young and scared they wouldn’t have a good life and that I would lose my identity feeling not good enough for them. The more I’ve researched the more I’ve learned this is actually quite a common feeling for women to have.
All my life when faced with change I have had a knee-jerk reaction. Every new job, moving out from home, I’ve panicked and felt like it was wrong. Each time when I stick it out I have found my feet in a matter of weeks, sometimes a couple of months. The idea of change scares me rather than reality of it and I just wish I’d realised this and my own resilience.
Would it be morally wrong to TTC later this year, knowing it’s not much further behind the termination? Any experiences you would like to share are totally welcome (and appreciated) x