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I'm so upset tonight, having to make a really hard decision

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Lorddenning1 · 27/02/2023 22:55

So tonight I found out I'm pregnant, me and OH are getting married this year, I have 2 DS from a previous relationship and his has DD, so between us we have 3 children. We have talked about having a baby together but decided 3 between us was enough and we do ok for a family of 5 on our income.
A couple of weeks ago, we were drunk and had unprotected sex, I know so stupid, but I do have PCOS and don't ovulate and have struggled with infertility and had to have drugs to help me get pregnant, so i thought we would of been ok.
Not felt myself this weekend, really tired and lightheaded so to put the worry out of my head I took a test and its positive, faint but still 2 lines.
I feel so upset that I'm going to have to make a hard decision because we cannot afford it. The cost of living crisis means we cannot comfortably manage with a new baby, maternity pay etc and then childcare after when it's time to go back to work. I am so angry that if money wasn't an issue we would be having this baby, a baby that would be ours and due after our wedding.
I am so angry but I am not sure at who, myself for being so stupid that I am now having to do this, the government, the world, and I feel really bad as I have struggled with infertility and not once did I think I would be here.
Just needed to get this off my chest as I can't tell anyone in real life. I'm so scared of how I will feel after too, guilt or regret, all for the sake of money.

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Lorddenning1 · 27/02/2023 22:57

They are definitely positive aren't they

I'm so upset tonight, having to make a really hard decision
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Lorddenning1 · 28/02/2023 07:05

Anyone got any advice?

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Regretforever · 28/02/2023 10:06

Have dm

Regretforever · 28/02/2023 15:34

Did you check your inbox

Lorddenning1 · 28/02/2023 15:44

I did, thank you, it's so hard to make a decision as my youngest son has just been diagnosed with ADHD so we have our hands full.

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scaredandanxious01 · 28/02/2023 20:25

Yes those tests are definitely positive. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s very early days, you have a few days to let the news sink in and things will hopefully become clearer. Money is a valid reason to have a termination (in fact any reason is a good reason IMO) and you would be making the choice with your existing DC’s well-being as your priority. That can’t ever be a bad thing. Hugs to you OP, had a termination last summer so I understand your turmoil x

Lorddenning1 · 01/03/2023 22:19

We have decided to keep the baby and deal with whatever comes our way in the future, I know I would regret not having this baby and I wouldn't be able to live with myself after.

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Regretforever · 01/03/2023 23:18

Congratulations. All the best to you

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