Abortion pills have arrived.. feeling guilty

[Guiltymumofthree]

I’m a mum of three I just had my last beautiful son last April. He was my last and I am happy with the family that I have. We had a little slip up when we went away a few weeks ago with the condom and now I’m pregnant.

we can’t afford another child and in all honesty we are exhausted as it is. We can’t afford a bigger car as we just purchased a new one last year when DS was born.
Our home isn’t big enough for us let alone another.

The pills are just sitting there staring at me but I just feel like I can’t do it. I know I have to but I just can’t. I keep delaying it but when is going to be the right time to end my babies life?

I know in my hearts of heart I would love this baby like my other 3 and I would cope but the financial strain would destroy us.

Not sure what I’m posting here for but some advice kinda words would be nice.

So sorry you're going through the this. Just here to tell you you're not alone, I have a scan this morning to get the process started with mine. Even though we feel it's the right decision it's still very difficult and incredibly sad. Good luck x

Another hand hold here. I had a termination last year and had to take the tablet as soon as I got it as there was no right time and I just had to do it. It’s not easy, probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do was swallowing that tablet. Good luck xxx

Thanks everyone. I’m absolutely heartbroken I just took the next set of tablets and have started bleeding. I don’t know how I will ever get over this. My heart is absolutely shattered even though I know I did the right thing xx

So sorry you are in this situation..my tablets arrived this morning and I am the same as you. Looking at the package wondering what on earth to do. I'm in an abusive relationship so feel like this is my only choice. Sending love and take care.xx

Keep your focus on your real children, not the dream of what this pregnancy would have resulted in. At the moment your heart and hormones are running the show but it will get better and times gives a better perspective

Please don't fall into the trap of feeling guilty for the rest of your life. It's the right decision for you now and all you can do is what's right in the moment. Many women (me included) have terminated pregnancies because they are the wrong thing at the wrong time and it's not inevitable that you are eaten up with guilt. You learn to move on and find peace, knowing your children have the best mum, not an anxious and overworked mum.

@Guiltymumofthree Hi lovely 💗 This is my first post on mums net (long time lurker) but I just wanted to message you to reassure you everything’s going to be ok. I was on the same boat a few weeks ago when finding out I was pregnant with baby #2. My reasons were more to do with not being able to cope both physically and emotionally though.

I was honestly plagued with extreme guilt to the point that I couldn’t stop crying and I even felt suicidal. When I took the first tablet, I was shaking and crying. I was an uncontrollable mess. I’m 3 weeks post-termination and I honestly feel so much better and I don’t regret it, as I know at this moment in time of my life it was the right decision. I promise you will feel the same - just keep remembering the reasons why you’re doing this. You’ll get through this lovely, I promise 💐💕

@Guiltymumofthree Hi lovely 💗 This is my first post on mums net (long time lurker) but I just wanted to message you to reassure you everything’s going to be ok. I was on the same boat a few weeks ago when finding out I was pregnant with baby #2. My reasons were more to do with not being able to cope both physically and emotionally though.

I was honestly plagued with extreme guilt to the point that I couldn’t stop crying and I even felt suicidal. When I took the first tablet, I was shaking and crying. I was an uncontrollable mess. I’m 3 weeks post-termination and I honestly feel so much better and I don’t regret it, as I know at this moment in time of my life it was the right decision. I promise you will feel the same - just keep remembering the reasons why you’re doing this. You’ll get through this lovely, I promise 💐💕