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lack of support from my partner during abortion process

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londongirl158 · 02/02/2023 19:29

Hello all.. I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with my partner and his lack of support during my abortion, and the decision to have one. We haven't been together for a huge amount of time, and not long enough to have a child together. I had a contraceptive accident, and given the situation, I have decided to go ahead to have the abortion despite the fact I am nearing the end of my time in my life to possibly have children (don't have any currently, but I do want them).

I am just finding my partner really unsupportive, he has tried to make light of the situation (literally used those words..) hasn't offered to come to any appointments with me, calls me only when it suits him and when he finds it too stressful doesn't bother to call me, and hasn't offered to be with me at all on the day that I take my four tablets tomorrow. I am feeling so down by the whole thing. He has the whole time how he has never felt this way about anyone, but quite frankly the way he's treating me is just baffling. I know i need to look after myself for the next few days, which I will, but I personally don't see anyway back from this for us. Has anyone experienced anything similar to this (i hope you haven't!) but if you have could you share any advice? I'm feeling really low and alone.

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Namechangeforthis6 · 04/02/2023 01:13

Hi @londongirl158

Are you absolutely sure you want an abortion? Reading your post I get the sense that you're not sure yet.

The fact that your partner is being unsupportive and making light of the situation is appalling. He clearly has no idea how traumatic an abortion can be.

You really need to think about what you really want, do you want a baby right now? Take him out of the equation, you can certainly do this on your own if you have to.

💐

lifeinthehills · 04/02/2023 01:44

If you are having the abortion for him, think about if this is something you really want to do. It sounds like it might be your one chance to have a child, which you seem to want.

That said, he is showing you how he might be in future when going through difficult things, or when you need support. Abortion or no abortion, you need to decide if this is a deal break for you or not.

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