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Medical Abortion, terrified.

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Anxious4488 · 02/02/2023 01:03

I'm currently 6 weeks 3 days pregnant after a contraception failure. I'm going through BPAS for my medical Abortion. On Tuesday I took the first pill in clinic where they also scanned me. I was sent home with the other tablets to take between 24/48 hours, so 48 hours brings me to lunchtime tomorrow or today as it's after 12! But here I am lying here at almost 1am wanting to get it over with now as I have three little children and night time would be best to hopefully get over the worst! I am terrified though and have been trying to do it for the past three hours. This is what I want but I am a wreck, so emotional and absolutely terrified. I felt fine about it but when the clinic scanned me they noticed that the pregnancy was almost 2 weeks behind what I was expecting and there was also a large pooling of blood in my uterus... so the Doctor said she strongly feels I would have miscarried either way. This somehow made me feel worse, I haven't stopped crying and just want to begin the process but I am TERRIFIED. So scared of the pain, what will pass, what I'll see. Will I bleed horrendously due to the blood already in my uterus? I am just a mess right now so apologies for the rant.. just after some advice and words of encouragement if that makes sense.

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Madreof3 · 02/02/2023 08:40

Hi - same boat here. I thought I’d share my journey so far to reassure you a bit. I know everyone is different. I took my first tablets Tuesday about 11am. I waited till youngest was nearly ready for bed yesterday so was about 7.15 before i inserted the 4. Took 600mg ibuprofen at the same time. She went to bed about 8. I chilled then till I’d say around 9 when I started to have only what I can describe as period pain. All very manageable I was bleeding like a heavy period by about 9.30 and passing quite a few clots nothing big but bigger than normal period ones if you know what I mean but not massive.
I went to take the next 2 tablets in my gum but as soon as I put them in my gums I was sick so they were gone. This was now was about 10.30 panicked as obviously haven’t had the extra 2 now. Phone the helpline who said they are really more for people who haven’t started bleeding or cramping and sounds like everything is already underway. Not to worry too much. Anyway I had a bit of stronger cramping about 11 and had massive bout of shivers so went to toilet passed more clots then went to bed.
i think it’s done cramping has eased off massively this morning although still quite a lot of blood no clots. It’s not been very painful at all. I’m hoping all is ok can update you in the next few days. I’m 7-4 days but I’m actually 5-4 I can pinpoint when this happened exactly.

hope You are ok?

Mbsimba · 02/02/2023 09:48

Hey everyone, how are u all?

Im expecting my pills in the post today (i hope 😩)

Just need a shoulder really.

Hope everyone is okay

Madreof3 · 02/02/2023 17:51

Hi did your pills come? Hope you are ok.

LM8 · 02/02/2023 18:32

Good evening, I’d like to talk to some ladies that are going through/have been through a medical abortion.
I have my consultation in the morning with BPAS. I’m a nervous wreck and just want all of it to disappear. I can’t believe I’m in this situation. It feels horrible. I found out on Sunday I was pregnant (4 weeks).
This is my first abortion, I’m scared. Iv got two young boys and me and my husband have agreed that this is the right decision for us.
Iv read a lot online about the process and treatment. And posting the pills to you, which I’m hoping I can have. The only thing that worries me slightly about that is that I’m a Rhesus Negative blood group and Il have to have the Anti D injection. I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience being Rhesus Negative? :) thanks x

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Anxious4488 · 02/02/2023 20:51

Hi everyone, just wanted to say thanks so much for the messages and thought I'd give you all an update. So in the end I did take the four tablets orally at 1:30am, I just couldn't sleep and wanted it done. I'm sure everyone's experiences are different but here's mine..

1:30am I took an anti sickness tablet and placed the pills in-between my cheek and gum (I couldn't face doing this vaginally for some reason). At around 3am I got strong diarrhea like cramps, needed to go and had severe diarrhea where I passed my first few small clots also. Twice after when I'd gone for a pee I passed some more clots, nothing massive or anything, just larger than period clots. I didn't see anything within losing these and I also didn't experience any worse pain than regular period cramps - I didn't require any pain relief at all! The diarrhea cramps were worse than the period like cramps to be honest. Although I passed quite a bit going to the toilet and still am, my pads aren't soaked at all and what appears in the pad is like a light period! I'm still sore but managing fine.

The mental bit has been the hardest and I know it will take me a while to heal but I'm constantly kept busy with my three children which is helpful. As I say I'm sure some people have bad experiences and maybe me already having children vaginally etc helped but please don't feed too much into the horror stories as your experience may be like mine.

Wish you all the best ❤️

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Mbsimba · 02/02/2023 21:55

No they didnt and i feel absolutely exhausted by it all!

I literally begged them to let me collect but apparently there are no appointments available for this unless i travel 50 million miles!

Its been sent via royal mail 24 tracked on Tuesday but still not here even though i did receive a text saying they'd be delivered today.

I think im 3 weeks so although im early, i just want it over with. The mentla strain the waiting causes is unbearable at times.

I am working this weekend now (i am a paediatric Oncology nurse) so is impossible to get time off. I had today and tomorrow off to get this sorted because they told me to wsit 24 hours in between taking the two diff medications 🙄 i had one years ago maybe 10 years ago and i was given everything to take at once so i am unsure why or when it changed to this.

Feels like im trapped in a nightmare.

Thank u all for your replies x

Mbsimba · 02/02/2023 21:55

Im so glad its done and you can begin to heal ♥️

Mbsimba · 02/02/2023 21:58

Its horrible isn't it. The wait is really the worst part. I havent experience with RN blood group but i dont think this would affect your treatment. I just hope they get it sent out to you ASAP so the process can begin and we can all try to move on. Happy fucking 2023 🙄

Mbsimba · 03/02/2023 10:57

Good luck for your consultation, we are here for you x

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