The dad of my child does not what the baby, what do I do?

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i found out a week ago that I’m 5wks pregnant. I had told the father and he’d told me that it’s my choice and he’d stick my me. I’m not in a relationship with him, he is with someone else and has 7 other children with different women.

After a week of processing and thinking about it I’ve decided I want to keep the baby. I’d told him this and now he is saying he’d rather not have the baby because he won’t be able to commit time or money towards us (I’m not too bothered about the money).

I understand where he is coming from and it is a valid answer. But now I don’t know what to do.

is it selfish for me to bring a child into this world knowing that their dad won’t be there for them? I also feel terrible going ahead with it to because I know it’s not something he wants.

I don’t think I have enough strength to abort the pregnancy. I really don’t know how to feel or what to do.

I’m in the same situation, though further along, and trying to come to a decision. However, when thinking about it, I think about whether or not I want to be a single parent or not- I don’t think about him in the equation. If I continue and he wants to be involved, then that’s a bonus, but my baseline for considering what to do is that I’ll be doing it all by myself- and is that something I want/can do. I think you need to ask yourself the same. The guy can still choose not to be involved if he really doesn’t want to be, and live his life as he wants.

i’m not sure if the 7 children he has had by different women were planned or not, but in my case this is the 4th time my guy has gotten someone pregnant (all other 3 aborted their pregnancies willingly). However, while it was both our faults for being careless, I am a little annoyed that given he’s been in this situation multiple times before that he wasn’t more careful if he’s so adamant he wants me to abort. I’m sick of many men viewing abortion as a form of contraception snd saying ‘I thought you were ‘pro choice?’ … I am pro choice, but in my case it’s not an easy decision, and pro choice doesn’t mean the woman wants to abort every accidental pregnancy. Grrr… sorry, rant over :)

Maybe just to also add… you seem sure you want this baby.. then go for it. Barack Obama snd many others were raised by single mum’s with absent dads. If you’re sure you want it, forget the guy and go for it.

Yes.

And.
It's just selfish to have children in general.

In my opinion

I don't believe in having children at all,

But also with a partner that is adamit about not wanting a child.

May I ask why are you on mumsnet? Seems odd. Seeing as it is for MUMS.

OP, I know this an old thread and hopefully you are happy with the decision you made, I am pregnant and the dad hasn’t contacted me to ask anything and while it is sad my baby will have enough love that I don’t think it is selfish, I do think however it’s selfish to get someone pregnant ( mistake or not ) and just up and leave with no remorse. I don’t know how men sleep at night knowing there is a child out there and they have no idea how things are.