Abortion???

[Staceybeak]

I’m 7 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, I already have 2 boys ages 2 & 1.

I keep going from wanting the baby to not wanting the baby and I cannot make a decision!

I literally have the abortion pills with me just can’t bring myself to take them.

I love my 2 boys so much and i would feel so guilty having to share my love with another baby. I feel like my 2 boys are all I need and a perfect family not only that, because the boys are so young still it would be very very stressful with all 3 being under 3!

but then, I imagine what another baby would be like, how much love I could give it. It would be so much harder but obviously you’d make it work.

I have been getting so stressed trying to make a decision it’s really getting me down. I really wish I never got pregnant and would not want a third if I wasn’t pregnant but as I am pregnant, it’s a completely different story!

please someone help me with what the right decision is! It’s driving me crazy!

As a mum to be I think women know what they want so follow your heart. Write down the pros and cons and see what you want to do. Don't let anyone cloud your judgement. It's your choice.

You'll just know what to do. Follow your heart.

I am in a very similar position to you so wanted to reply to send support! I am on the pill but have fallen pregnant with my third and i’m feeling very conflicted. Currently 9 weeks and I have my phone appt with the clinic booked but I cannot decide what to do.
You’ve captured my feelings exactly - I am so happy with my two (4 and 2) but I know I would love having another. The money/car/lack of space and sleep just makes me think I would be depriving my two of what they deserve and stretching myself too far.
My partner has always made it clear he only wants two which adds to my confusion.
I feel awful having this conflict when I have friends that struggle to conceive and would give anything for this situation.

You will cope. You might be filled with panic but you will be fine. You will have more than enough love for all of your children and wonder how you ever felt complete before your third. I had three very close together and yes things were busy but our home is filled with such love I can never imagine life without them all. My friend made a decision to terminate her third and it affected her mental health badly - I would hate for you to feel this way.

@Itsalmostchristmasagain I'm struggling pregnant with my 3rd thinking about having to have 2 hotel rooms etc and plus the physical pain of carrying another child. Thank you so much for your message on this thread. It uplifted me.

Well thank you - I’m very glad that my experience may have helped you a little. I think we get so caught up on the practicalities etc that we forget what it’s all about sometimes? Try to think of finding places to stay as a family of five as an adventure and get something older to drive but bigger! I really hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and focus on the exciting times ahead. It will all be worth it!

Hello, I’m in exactly the same situation. Just wondered what you decided? Here if you need to talk x