Abortion Uncertainty

[TaylorKG]

I’m feeling lost and looking for some insight or wondering if others have been in the same situation. I’m in my late 20s, in a committed relationship with a supportive and loving boyfriend. We plan to get married in the near future and wanted to start a family in a couple years. I just found out I’m pregnant (5 weeks) and I thought I would be excited… but I was not.

There are no big reasons for us to terminate the pregnancy - our relationship is solid, we both want to be parents one day and financially we are fortunate to not be concerned about the costs of raising a child. Our biggest hesitations are: he commutes for work leaving at 4am and getting home at 7pm meaning I’d be very much on my own for most weekdays. Having a child also doesn’t align with our plans of experiencing life things (travel, a wedding, ups and downs) just the two of us.

What I’m struggling most with is whether these reasons are enough for me to go through with an abortion. I consider myself very maternal and have a sister and close friends with babies. I wonder if I will be full of regret and how this will impact my mental health down the road. I could see myself feeling guilty and deeply saddened by this choice, but I don’t know for certain.

This feels like an enormous decision and I don’t know how to make it when I feel so torn.

Sorry to hear you've found yourself with a difficult decision to make. I've had an abortion but I've also got 2 children so I understand a little about the decision you have ahead of you.

I guess my main piece of advice would be to give yourself time to let it sink it & work out how you really feel, you've got time & don't need to make an immediate decision.

If it's something you're considering There's no reason you can't make a call to somewhere like bpas to discuss abortion, you don't have to go through with it unless you choose to & It might help you firm up how you really feel about it.

Sounds like children are very much part of the plan but it's whether now is that time, and if you decide it's not then don't feel guilty for making that choice. A lot changes in a few months & things may be very different.

Hopefully a bit of time will give you a chance to work out of it's just the shock of it happening now but that you want to go ahead with the pregnancy or that an abortion is right for you at this moment.

for what it's worth I do not regret for a single second having my children, they light up my life. But I also don't regret having an abortion as it was right at the time.