The wait for medical termination

[Charlieblue22]

My partner and I have decided to terminate my pregnancy. It hasn’t been an easy decision as there were both pros and cons to keeping it, but ultimately we decided that termination is the best choice for us. The problem is that having made the decision I have been told I have to wait 2 weeks for an appointment (they want to see me in person because of previous medical history). I feel like all that extra time is like a punishment, more thinking time,
torturing ourselves about whether it’s the right thing to do or not. I know that we made a rational decision based on sensible reasons but I still find myself having doubts as the days drag on. Anyone else have a similar experience and any advice on how to get through this horrible time?

Thank you so much for your message and for sharing your experience. There are lots of reasons why we don’t feel we can have another baby but the main one being that my last baby and I were both very poorly during that pregnancy and there’s a very high chance of that being the case again this time. It would be reckless of me to attempt another pregnancy when I have other children to think about, but it’s still a really tough decision even knowing that. The guilt is huge!

Only have an abortion if you're sure of it.

I had one back in June because if hg and I was soo sick in and out of hospital. I actually vomited on my 1 year olds head and thoughts naah I can't do this to her. Then changed my mind. Still went to the appointment as I could deal with the sickness and promised myself I'll only take the pills if I feel like I can't cope or want to die. I took them. Felt so much guilt straight away for days and months. I hated my husband because he should have stopped me. Around September I knew why it had to be done. However I still wanted a baby. I'm pregnant again right now (8 weeks), I have the same fears but I'm dealing with the sickness, sickness isn't as bad as last time, husband is supportive and I'm coping. I did have doubts again but have worked past through then with time. I was having irrational fears. That's just my experience. I'm not going to lie to you and say I don't think about that baby because the grief and anger was unreal. But I've accepted it. I felt awful seeing other peoples babies. That's just my experience.

Can you expand on what's making you feel doubts?

They are an anti-choice organisation masquerading as a charity.

Well yes, if someone is considering whether to have a termination or not (although it sounds like OP has made up her mind) pointing her towards a highly biased organisation does matter, and makes it sound like you have an alterior motive. A group that plasters its material with pictures of foetuses and lobbies the government to tighten abortion restrictions is not going to give anyone balanced advice.