Talk me out of wanting a 3rd child

[mammawho]

I've got 2 little girls (aged 2 & 5).

I have had no desire for another child at all until I had my implant removed a couple of weeks ago (it was making me moody and I had no sex drive).

All of a sudden I want sex all the time and I can't stop thinking about having another baby.

It would be a bad decision mainly because the house isn't big enough, we would need a bigger car, don't think grandparents could provide the same level of childcare if we had a 3rd. I can't bear to go through the sleepless nights and shitty nappies again. I can't say I enjoyed the first year and a half with either of my girls. I keep thinking in another year I will start to get my life back. But I've just got this massive need to have another baby.

Anyone else feel this way?? Someone tell me it's a stupid idea. Thanks

How are you feeling now? Have you given it a thought? I can't talk you out of because I couldn't talk myself out of it 😂 . After my 2nd child I thought no more kids then accidentally got pregnant, had bad sickness/hypermesis and had to have a termination then felt really bad and now pregnant again. It was scary getting pregnant again but I've just warmed upto the idea. I'm trying to cope with the sickness but it's not hit me hard. I kept questioning my decision, silly things like how will we fit on rides on Disneyland? Will somebody be left out? How will we cope with 2 bedrooms...it's just anxiety that's sorted itself out. Before my 2nd child i thought I'd have a large family then after her I thought no I don't want any right now. Now with this pregnancy

*Now with this pregnancy I'm thinking it's my last

My 3rd is 14 months and I’m still in the pits. Like you, I couldn’t stop thinking about a third and the constant feeling that we weren’t done. In a moment of weakness (and too many sherries) on Christmas Night we thought we’d see what happens and 9 months later our world turned upside down.

I absolutely love my 3rd obviously but my god it’s been hard. Take away the fact that he’s my baby and I wouldn’t change him for the world and imagine I’d never met him etc etc if you get my drift.. I probably wouldn’t have a third if I did it all over again. But that’s RIGHT NOW.
I have a 6 and a 4 yo too and I think it’s probably the hardest it’ll ever be, physically as well as emotionally.

The love the three of them have for each other is just the most beautiful thing. But we’ve had to move house and get a new car 😂 also holidays are more tricky as well as rides at fairgrounds and theme parks. All of your practical worries are actually real, but for me, I’d rather have a tough couple of years than always wonder what it would have been like with 3 and maybe regret.

Just to add, I’m definitely done now, none of the feeling somethings missing or niggling thoughts of another. When you’re done, you’re done.