Unsure what to do for the best

[Zrose]

Hello there.

I recently found out I am pregnant again a few days ago. I am a mother to two already, a 3 year old and an 18 month old.

I'm unsure what to do or how I feel about this pregnancy, it was unexpected and although I wanted more children in future atleast not for a few years.

My living situation is cramped and financially things are tight. I’ve experienced both terminations and a missed miscarriage but I think I will feel a sense of regret especially if I experience complications in future pregnancies.

Babys dad says it’s down to me but I’m unsure what to do.

How are you generally with your pregnancies? I'd say if your planning a child in the future then why not now. I had a termination 6 months ago and now I'm pregnant again. Part of me looks back and thinks instead of doing that then why didn't I just ask for more help. But then again it wasn't easy. But you never know you might cope better. Is your partner supportive? Do you get help?

No he’s not supportive, I don’t get help have no parents and family is not good at the best of times. I just don’t want to abort but I feel like everyone will look at me like I’m stupid otherwise.

I took the morning after pill but I was too late I think so I’m just 🤷🏾‍♀️

Hi little mama. A few things stood out to me from your post - first, you do want to have more children. Sometimes the universe gives us children before we were planning to have them, but then we can't imagine our lives without them.
If you feel like you'd just like to make the best of this pregnancy and have your babies close together, that's fine! The other is that you're afraid "everyone will look at you like you're stupid." Fear of being judged is NEVER a good reason to do something, especially a choice as important as this! People will always have their opinion, but you are the one who will have to live with the choice that is made - they will be on to the next drama in a month. Don't waste any time or energy on other people's opinions. You already know what it's like to abort and what it's like to have a child. I'm sorry your partner is not enthusiastic about the pregnancy but he has to pay support whether he likes it or not (at least in most countries). If you wanted three children, maybe you could have this baby and then look into more permanent birth control and then hopefully there won't be any more shocks in the future. I wish you all the best, hope you can make your choice with a clear head and heart.

Thank you, your message felt like a hug.

A much needed hug.

Absolutely! 😊People will always have their opinions in this life, but we have to make our own path. If you want to find out if any financial aid or resources are available to you, here is a group that can send you in the right direction birthright.org/ Sending hugs, encouragement, and best wishes to you, Zrose 🌹