Needing advice

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My baby boy is currently 10 weeks old, he was born on the 23rd of August.
My current partner is not the babies dad but we met whilst pregnant and he’s stuck by me ever since. He sees my son as his own and it’s made me love him even more to see the way he is with him.

We started sleeping together a few weeks after birth and was rejected the patch as you have to wait 6wpp generally.
At around 1/2 weeks ago I got the mini pill tested before taking the first one and it was negative but yesterday felt to take a test just to make sure because I hadn’t had any signs of a period.

As you can see I’ve discovered it’s a positive result and now I am so scared and so shocked that it happened so soon - silly really!
I’ve spoken to my partner but before this happened we both discussed we’d wait a few years before trying for baby of his own.
He is completely supportive of my decision whatever it may be but I can tell he’s worried, I can see he wants a baby of his own but maybe not now even though I know he’d be supportive If I chose not to terminate.
We are currently living in a unit but by July next year I’m 99% sure we will have our own proper place.
We have a little flat but no bathroom of our own and of course only 1 room.

Any advice welcome I’m just really unsure of what to do - my brain says one thing and heart says another. I’ve struggled a lot with postpartum depression and I’m concerned that having a baby so soon after my little boy is the wrong choice.

Hello, and congratulations on the birth of your son. I can't imagine the shock of finding out you got pregnant again so soon. It's great that you have met a good man who loves you and is a caring dad too. It's normal to feel anxious and worried when plans don't happen as we wanted them to. There can be good things about having two children close together. For example, you can get the nappies, bottles, baby swings, high chairs and all that stuff out of the way in one go. If two children are all you want, one of you could think about a more permanent birth control method. And your children would likely be good playmates for each other and grow up close, although children far in age can be close as well. It's good that you'll have a larger living space in less than a year, that will help a lot. If you struggle with depression, you can see if there are any medicines that could help you. My friend was on one and said it helped a lot. I'll ask her the name of it if you'd like to know.

Two little ones at once may seem overwhelming but people manage to raise twins and triplets! I think that 90% (or more) of the people on the planet were "oops" babies, and our parents just made the best of it. It's also hard to know how an abortion will affect you-- some women seem to get on just fine, but for many it is the cause of much grief and regret. I hope you'll be able to think through this with a clear head and heart, and make the choice that will bring the most happiness and peace to your lives. All my best to you!

How are you generally with your pregnancies?