BPAS experiences please

[OhhSugar]

I'm in complete shock and I don't feel I can tell anyone, so I'm going to go through this alone. I have a DP but he would go ballistic and rightly so...

I'm about 9 weeks pregnant and I have a just turned four month old baby! I had hyperemesis with my first baby and every symptom under the sun... this one I've had no symptoms. The only thing that has made me test is because DP made a noodle type thing yesterday and I could smell it from upstairs!

I have PCOS and endometriosis and we had to have fertility treatment for our first baby, we were told by a doctor that natural pregnancies are unlikely. I've been careless with my pill, because sex is a rarity now and with my PCOS, I never expected to naturally conceive - especially not with a four month old.

I have an appointment with BPAS tomorrow - I would prefer the surgical option as I'd hope they could fit a coil at the same time, but if the waiting list is long then I will take the pills.

What's everyone else's experiences with BPAS? How long did it take to get treatment after the first appointment? :(

Please be kind. I'm so stressed and I am not going to tell a soul.

Sorry. Don't know how I posted in relationships...

I had a medical abortion with BPAS at 4-5 weeks pregnant. I called them on a Friday, had my telephone consultation the following Tuesday and received my pills the next day.
You might be waiting longer for a surgical procedure though.

Hey Sugar, I'm a little worried about you, what do you mean that your partner would "go ballistic" if he knew you were pregnant? This is absolutely the kind of thing you should not have to go alone with. He can't be angry at you, as he helped create this new pregnancy and you did not think natural conception would be possible. I'm so sorry you've found yourself in this situation but I feel like this would be a very difficult secret to keep. If you are bleeding, or in pain, or sad, or grieving, you will not be able to share those feelings with him, and what is the point of a romantic partner if they can't help you through the hard times in life. You two might want to discuss whether you want another child, or if you only want one. If you were open to giving your child a brother or sister, you can talk about the possibility of having another, especially since it might be your only chance (?). I just hope you can get some help so you're not all alone with this, I can't even imagine trying to act normal every day with that on your mind. Hope things work out for you dear.

Hi @OhhSugar. How are things now? I've had experience of both medical & surgical so really happy to share my experience if you like but realise it might be too late. Here if you need me 😊

I had a bad experience with them but it was years ago.