Need some advice (no judgement)

[MumofBoys115]

Hi there,

So my current situation - been with my partner for 13yrs nearly, we have 2 DS ages 11 and 5. DP was not happy about either pregnancies but is an amazing dad and was fine when both arrived.

Fast forward to now, I am 29 and did 3 early tests I am 4weeks pregnant! So conflicted as DP says he isnt bothered either way and its up to me. I am changing my mind every day whether to keep or not.

We live in a fairly large 2 bed house, boys share for now but the room is big enough to split if they both want to as DS1 gets older.

DP has said he doesnt want to move but we will have to eventually. Ive contacted BPAS and they are ringing on Tuesday.
Has anyone else been in a similar position? I know i would manage with another but I think the financial strain could be a problem too.

TIA xx

Hi Tia! I'm sorry that you are under the weight of such a decision, and that even after two previous (what I'm assuming are) unexpected pregnancies, your husband isn't being a little more helpful here. How are you feeling about it? Had you considered having a third child? A playmate closer in age for your 5 year old? Or maybe a daughter you've always wanted? How do you feel about abortion? Do you think it would have negative emotional consequences for you? These are things every woman has to ask herself. After being on this board a while, I can say I have seen many more women who regretted the abortion than regretted having the baby. I'm glad your partner is a very good father, and it sounds like he could have room for one more child in his heart. I grew up with two siblings and it's a nice dynamic. An unplanned pregnancy is always panick-inducing but sometimes it's a blessing in disguise. I hope you'll be able to think clearly and decide what would give your lives the most peace and happiness right now. Whatever you choose, I hope you can do so with your whole heart. All my best to you, Tia.

Hi so sorry for very late reply! Wish I would have seen this sooner. So I have my 12 week scan next week, after weighing up everything I just couldn't bring myself to have a termination. Going to tell my boys next week after the scan. You sound such a kind soul, thanks again 💜💜xx

Thank you for checking in and letting me know what you ended up deciding. I hope everything goes well, and that you will have a child you can't imagine your family being without. Enjoy the baby years while they last, they go by so quickly! It should be exciting to break the news to the "big brothers." So happy for you. 🌼

So happy for you x