Abortion - advice please :(

[katie87xx]

Hi,
never posted on here but looking for some advice i think, or someone to speak to as i havent spoken to anyone in real life.
I have found out i am 6 weeks pregnant, not planned was using the contraceptive patch and surprised this has happened
i had a failed abortion 7 months ago (surgical) had a lot of retained products wrapped round my ovaries (majority of the pregnancy) that caused me to lose a lot of blood, my body was contracting for 2 days to try to expel but couldn't ended up in hospital hemorrhaging, had doctors try to pull it out on no pain killers as my body was suffering bad.
Ended up giving me tablets to expel on morphine - the most traumatic experience of my life so i did not plan to be in this position again.

I have just been offered my dream job which is a 6 month probation and it was a very tough interview process i am still surprised i got the job so dont want to go in there and give the news i am pregnant

I am petrified of having another abortion and really dont want to do it, however i think it maybe for the best. I dont know what im looking for on here, maybe someone who has recently been through a medical abortion to re-assure me everything went ok for them.

Its the hardest decision i am terrified something will go wrong, then i am thinking i could provide/look after a child as i am in a good position but if i was to lose the job i have just been offered i wouldnt be able to afford a child on no job.

:(

I’m really sorry you had that bad experience. But there’s almost no chance of it happening again. I have had a medical abortion as have loads of people and they are straightforward.

It doesn’t sound like you’re in the right place for a child, and that wouldn’t be fair on either of you.

I would take the job, focus on building a secure financial future, and plan a family when you are ready.

It may be there’s something about the patch that isn’t working with your body so chat with your doctor about that.

Separate the issues, do you want a kid? Can you afford one? Would you be lone parenting?
You’d need medical advice about the rest, would a medical abortion work for you, with the damage from last time?

Who keeps impregnating you? Can he use contraception or have a vasectomy until a time when he’s fit to parent?

If you decide you don’t want the pregnancy I would speak to your Gp, you don’t want the same experience as last time, although unlikely to happen you should have the procedure done in hospital but I’m sure the abortion company would say the same also based on your medical history of abortions.

Also I was told to steer clear of the patch unless “you’re not that bothered about falling pregnant” as it isn’t the most reliable apparently.

Sorry you are in this position again, I believe they can put a coil in during an abortion but not sure.

In terms of keeping the baby or not only you can make that decision, don’t let anyone make it for you x

What did you decide to do?

Hi so I had a medical termination approx 12 weeks ago and I'm still bleeding on/off sometimes clots anyone had anything similar should I be worried 😌