Abortion

[Ellasmithsss]

Hi Everyone,

I just wanted some advice and hoping some of you can ease my mind.

I have an appointment tomorrow at the hospital for my scan etc and to talk through abortion options (medical/ surgical) I’ve had 3 weeks to think about this now and ideally I’d like the surgical abortion (just to add I’ve had this before when I was young. But it was very traumatic for me) but I don’t think I could physically do the medical I think that could be even worse! I don’t like seeing excessive amounts of blood and I have an iron deficiency and suffer badly with anxiety so i get light headed a lot and I feel like this could make it worse do to the medication and stress of it all. I also don’t like the idea of it being in my hands. I’m very stressed and have been now for weeks since I found out and been waiting for this appointment. I think I’m about 6 weeks. I’ve had terrible nausea everyday constantly. I had some tablets prescribed from
the GP they made me feel really tired and light headed. I’m thinking do I just do the medical as I may have to wait a few more weeks for the surgical as I cannot wait any longer it’s mentally and physically draining and I feel so poorly. I cannot wait for this to all be over. If anyone can put my mind at ease in anyway whether you’re going through this too like me or have been I’d really appreciate it….

Sorry to hear you're going through this.
I'm in a similar situation myself so just sharing my experience so far. I had my scan appointment last week & dated about 5 1/2 weeks. I too have had an abortion in the past where I had the tablet, personally I found it an awful experience as tables made me feel so sick I had to go to bed all afternoon, granted it wore off but I bled for nearly 3 weeks & found the whole 'has it hasn't it happened yet' really stressful & generally just found it all a rubbish experience.
This time round I have chosen the surgical option, turns out they do them every 2 weeks so have had to wait until next week - it'll be just over 2 weeks since my scan by the time of my appointment. The sickness has kicked in for me over the last 5 days & I've definitely questioned whether I'm crazy to wait for surgery rather than take a pill but I'm confident it's the right choice for me.

I know this won't help you make a decision but just wanted you to know that you're not alone. Maybe you can find out how long the wait for surgical is & decide from there? Sending you love

Aw Thankyou for your reply. It’s such an awful thing to have to go through. I’m a single mum already and I couldn’t be a single mum of 2…

I just don’t know if I should just have the pills so it’s done sooner… as I could possibly start the process tomorrow. I can’t express how sick I feel it’s been really bad for me, I was never like this when I was pregnant with my son. It’s a totally different experience and feeling.

So scared of the side effects. Scared if it doesn’t work. Scared it goes wrong.😭😭😭 I’m the worst worrier and over thinker!

You're welcome 😊. I totally understand not wanting another child, we have 2 & just can't see life with a 3rd. I guess that's why we're both here!

If you've really been suffering with sickness I'd definitely consider the tablets, my sickness is not unbearable & hoping it doesn't get to that point.

Although I personally found the pills a rubbish experience it was more psychologically than physically, aside from the horrific sickness after the second tablet the actual bleeding was heavy but very manageable & I had zero pain at all so in that sense it was great. It lasted a long time but wasn't heavy. Trouble is you won't know until you've tried as to what effect it has on you & how much bleeding & pain there is. If you're still early there's more of a chance it'll be like a heavy period than if you were further on. A tough decision whatever you go with.

Maybe the nurses tomorrow will be able to give you some more info about what to expect if you're swaying towards pills but are worried about how it will be.

I took the first pill yesterday at home. I feel awful today and I haven’t taken the other ones yet! I have 2 children and I haven’t told anyone what I’m going through so I’m trying to keep it all under wraps. I just want this over with. I wanted the surgical option but I couldn’t risk someone asking where I was going

I had my appointment this morning and I’ve taken the first pill. I had to wait abit as I was sick this morning and didn’t want it to come out of my system. I’ve chosen the medial abortion and will take the next 4 pills on Thursday morning. I couldn’t bare to wait any longer for the surgical as that would of been over 2 weeks away.. just glad I’ve started the process now

Hi OP, I went through this a couple of weeks weeks back. I've had two medical experiences, one I literally slept through and the second one was like extremely bad period pain- but nothing I couldn't manage and the worst was over in an hour. Make sure you keep your pain meds topped up and reach out on mumsnet if you need anyone to talk to, the ladies on here were brilliant taking my mind off things. Good luck xx

Thankyou! I will do, I can’t wait to not feel sick anymore it’s felt never ending… I’ve tried almost everything to help relieve the feeling. Nothing works for long. Struggling as I have a little one too!

@Ellasmithsss I got some anti sickness from the doctors as it lasted a few days after I took my second set of tablets, I found it really took the edge off!

I’ve already got anti-sickness tablets from the GP :(

Last night I woke up several times in the night feeling very sick and cried as I just wanted to sleep. The effect this pregnancy has on me is awful. I’ve never experienced this in my life and I don’t think I’d ever be able to have another child again! I was never like this with my little one!

Wondering if anyone else could help me or if they’ve been through something similar, I’m currently going through an abortion, I took my tablets on 2nd June last month and ever since have been constantly bleeding really heavy and haven’t stopped since?

jusy feel like it’s getting worse, everyone else I’ve spoke to and even on here I’ve read that there symptoms got better within 2 weeks…

should I be worried, is there a reason my bleeding won’t stop😭

I’ve tried to ring bpas and 111 and there just claiming it’s maybe my period! But to be bleeding straight for exactly 33 days doesn’t seem right with me😭 has anyone else been through the same as me…

Hi @Hanlee456 have you taken a pregnancy test? I bled continuously for a few weeks after my surgical abortion & I ended up having retained products meaning the procedure had to be repeated.

I'd suggest giving whoever you got the pills from a call - places like BPAS & MSI have aftercare support lines who should be able to help.

Most likely they'd give you a scan to double check nothing remains but definitely get in touch to get it checked out

Hi, I have took a test and it’s negative I’m just worried why I’m not even slowing down