Help! How much involvement should an absent dad have with newborn (?)

[LaurenCroft141]

Hi Everyone,

Reaching out for advice - im 36 weeks PG with my first baby, a little boy due in Sept 2022. Just for background me and the babys dad have been in an on off relationship since Aug 2020, its never really worked out and there is alot of rows but we seem to drift in and out of each others life. The last time this happened was when i got pregnant at Christmas last year, we both agreed that we would keep the baby and try and make a go of it. Things went from bad to worse really, he seemed to regret the decision almost straight away and would purposefully creates huge arguments and drama and disappear for days/weeks at a time. This continued until April this year when it all came to a head and we stopped speaking entirely, he then blocked my phone number and he has not spoken one word to me since, asked about the baby or offered any help. I have tried to instigate some kind of reconciliation by continuing to email updates, invite him to scans etc but he hasn't got back to me once. Now we are getting towards the babys due date im wondering if i should inform him when i go into hospital or of the birth?

I'd inform him after. Your labour is none of his business, just focus on you.

I would contact him and Child maintenance once baby is born and go from there. Your labour needs to be as stress free as possible and he doesn’t sound as it he would enable that to be the case.

I would tell him once baby is here, maybe let him know what you've called the baby. Then let CMS get the money for you.