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Do I keep our baby?

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Charlottelily · 21/08/2022 10:02

Hello everyone,

Posting on here for some support and advice. In the real world that seems to be few and far between.

A bit of a back story behind my life, I'm 27 years old. I have 3 beautiful children with my partner. Our first baby, we were both young but decided together we wanted to keep it. Our second, I booked in for an abortion until I had my scan and I was 19 weeks along and couldn't go through with it. My partner wanted me to go through with it though. And our 3rd baby again, I wanted him and my partner didn't. He obviously loves them all now very much.

Last Christmas, I discovered I was pregnant and we both decided that we weren't in the right situation to bring another baby into the world so I went ahead with my first abortion. I was very early on. And that felt right for us.

Fast forward to now and I've found out I'm pregnant again. By going on my periods I think I'm around 14 weeks along. My partner is insisting that I get an abortion but I'm not sure I can. I feel torn on what to do for the best. Financially, we aren't In the best position to support another child (I work and he doesn't, he stays at home and looks after the children) but that doesn't seem like a good enough reason to go through with an abortion so far along. I've go through the sickness and I've started to feel it kicking.

I guess I'm asking has anyone been in the same situation and what do you do?
I feel awful saying I want to keep it when I know he so badly doesn't.

Thank you for taking your time to read this and if anyone has any advice, I'd be so grateful....

OP posts:
TheArtfulScreamer1 · 21/08/2022 10:35

What contraception do you use as five unplanned pregnancies is a hell of a fail rate.
I'm pro choice but I do think it needs to be the women's choice and I'd make the choice based on if he wasn't on the scene what would you choose to do.
Whatever choice you make if your partner really doesn't want anymore children he needs to get a vasectomy and you definitely need to explore a more effective contraception as what you have been using clearly isn't working. I never got on with the pill but the mirena coil is good for me.

PortalooSunset · 21/08/2022 11:00

If he's giving you an ultimatum you need to consider whether you can manage as a single parent.
You also need to get better contraception.

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