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scan to date for possible termination

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sadandworrying · 17/07/2022 00:40

After a miscarriage at 7+1 weeks in May I have found out that I am pregnant again and I'm devastated. Both pregnancies were unplanned and both times were contraception failures. I'm in a fairly new relationship and my partner really doesn't want more children, I have 2 teenagers and raised them with no support from their dad and have always struggled for money and i'm frightened of doing it on my own again with a baby, not to mention ill be 15 years older than I was with my last child! So I am unhappily considering a termination.

Because I am pregnant so soon after the miscarriage they wouldn't send out a medical in the post and i have been booked for a scan to date before I can have a termination. I'm pretty sure i ovulated straight after the miscarriage so by my dates I will be 8+3 at the scan.

I'm not looking forward to the scan at all - i'm worried it will make a termination much harder to deal with, but i also really do want to see the baby. Im worried that because it was booked to date for a termination, that the staff might treat me as such, and really I'm not decided yet at all.

Will it be like a 'normal' scan, will they show me it on a screen, let me have a photo etc? I feel a bit stupid for asking but I'm feeling so emotional and don't know what to expect at all!

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PissedOffNeighbour22 · 17/07/2022 00:59

I wasn't shown the screen - all info was for the staff only. They just confirmed the date for themselves and assumed I was continuing with the termination (which I did).

Judith107 · 19/07/2022 02:51

There is nothing wrong with asking the staff if you would like to see the ultrasound, I'm sure they will accommodate. It sounds like part of your heart might be interested in this new possibility, even though it would be a challenge. If you are curious how developed the fetus would be at 11 weeks, you could do an internet search as well. Get all the information before making your choice, otherwise I think you'll just feel worse later on. You sound like a brave and strong woman and I wish you the best.

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