Shall I go to my scan?

[heartbroken22]

I have an appointment on Tuesday and just tested today and got a negative 3.5 weeks after my termination. Should I go?

P.s anyone else feeling awful about their termination. I hate my husband he should have been more supportive and helped me. But he made me feel like I was carrying the weight of the earth on my shoulders whilst I was pregnant...didn't understand or help.

I would go, just to make sure everything is all clear like it's supposed to. Sorry you're going through this!

I would also go, so you’ve got that peace of mind. I’m only four days after the first pill and feeing pretty awful about mine. I don’t think I wish I hadn’t done it, but I still hate what I did and grieving very much so for what could have been.

@heartbroken22 Yes, definitely go to the scan, just incase and it will also put your mind at ease. I’m sorry you didn’t feel supported by your DH, have you spoken to him about this since?

@scaredandanxious01 I totally get where you’re coming from, I feel the same way. I’m currently ovulating (3 weeks post termination) and have been so tempted to try and get pregnant again, even though I had a termination because my health isn’t very good and nothing has changed on that score. I’m guessing it’s just hormones but I really wanted the baby I terminated 😢

@Rtmhwales thank you I will go just to clear my mind. Always wishing for a miracle that it's still there. But it had to be done at the time.

@scaredandanxious01 it's really awful isn't it grieving for what could have been. Some days are hard and some days go without remembering. I'm going to let myself grieve as much as I want to and however long I want to.

@scaredandanxious01 thank you btw.

Definitely go for your peace of mind and physical safety.

I'm sorry you had to go through this. 💐

@Theoriginalinvisiblewoman I have spoken to him and I do understand him because he wasn't up for termination but then saw how poorly I was with the sickness that he said to me nothings worth more than your life..think about yourself and the kids if you're this poorly...I've been angry at my mum too because she said it's a blessing at first then also saw how I wasn't right in my health and my kids were suffering too...she said do what's best for you...I understand but have bursts of anger like someone should have stopped me...

I'm like that too about trying again to get the baby I lost and I feel like this time...no matter how much I get sick with the vomiting...I'm going to stay strong and not tell anyone and just cope with it. This isn't normal and I don't know what my brain is thinking. It's like I want to punish myself with the sickness so that I punish myself for what I did.

@PrettyIdiotic thank you so much. Your words help so much.