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Am I bad person for not wanting to be pregnant?

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mumlife18 · 12/06/2022 21:03

Hi everyone.
The past week I’ve really struggled with my mental health due to finding out I’m pregnant whist being on the copper coil(now removed)
My little one is just over a year old.
And to top it all off I had a scan a couple of weeks ago and its twins.
After some careful consideration I just dont feel I’m at a point where I can give another baby what they would need. I feel really gutted and heart broken just like I did when i found out. However I really would hate myself for getting rid. Especially when i know many people out there are trying, some so close to home🥺
I’m 24 and suffer still from post natal depression.
I keep bursting out into tears and feeling like a waste of space for a woman who should be happy with this news😢
I am with my partner but our relationship can be quite rocky as he works 6 days a week sometimes 7.
does anyone have any thoughts please?xx

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GingerFigs · 12/06/2022 21:15

Do what is right for you. If you don't feel in a good position (mentally, financially, work, whatever) and your relationship is rocky and you don't wish to continue the pregnancy then having a termination is fine. Someone else's struggle to have a child is not made better or worse by what is happening to you or what decisions you make.

Your decisions effect you for the rest of your life. It's understandable that you feel guilty if family or friends are having issues conceiving but honestly, that doesn't mean you should continue a pregnancy if you don't want to. Your body your choice.

RunningFromInsanity · 12/06/2022 21:41

There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting you and your existing child first.

You are not those other women, and whether you continue with this pregnant or not has absolutely no effect on their pregnancy journey.

Twins is a massive undertaking, especially with an unexpected and unwanted pregnancy.

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