I'm so torn :(

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Hi all, I'm a mummy to a beautiful 7 month old boy who is my world. I've recently found out I'm pregnant again. Although we want more children, I'm really not sure now is the right time. It's so soon! Partner is happy to go with whatever I decide, but in some ways it's making it harder. The reality is, I will be doing the hard work as he works full time. I feel like I could handle it mentally, financially etc. i just feel guilt for my 7mo old. I worry he will miss out on 1 on 1 time with us when he will still be so little, I worry he will feel pushed out. How does anyone make a decision like this 😔

Hello , this exact thing happened to me but I wasn't planning on anymore! My DD was 7months when i found out i was pregnant again. I went through all the emotions and constantly questioning things.
My DD is 4 (5 in December) my DS is now 3.

Yes it was hard and still is at times! But I'm so happy i did it. They play together and keep each other company (mostly!) and everything is done all together. E.G toilet training , baby stage and sleepless nights.

Everything just kind of moulded into one and went along nicely

My DD starts full time school September and DS starts part time nursery.

But it is your choice and obviously you need to look after yourself too hope this helped!

@mumpower3 thank you so much for your reply. It really has helped. I'm still giving it some thought but it's so nice to hear positives. How was your DD with the new baby? Did she get jealous or act out etc? I'm so worried how my son will be affected as he will be so little still, plus he's a mummy's boy 🥺

She was obviously a little confused at first , but she loved it too. Playing with more baby toys and stroking his hair haha!

My living situation was really bad at the time too i must say. I also have an autistic 11 year DD.
But honestly i just made it work because its all we knew if that makes sense.

Im so happy they are growing up together and are close. They share a room and in the mornings when they wake up they normally start playing with their toys together.

As i said there are still some days its tough! But its all i know. I couldn't imagine it any other way!

If you do want another, why not take the one that's already here rather than gamble on the future. I found that keeping a baby in a comfortable sling was a great way to keep hands free but keep baby happy and be able to attend to the older child as well (just can't cook with baby in a sling!). You will be able to have the two close together in age and then get rid of all the baby wash basins, high chairs, swings, and all those things that take up such room. Make sure your partner helps out and gives you some time off/time out of the house by yourself, even just for an hour. It helps restore the soul and these baby years go by so fast. I hope you are able to make it work and wish you all the best!

I was pregnant when DS1 was a year old, a planned pregnancy, having them close together was the best decision, no jealousy as DS1 accepted DS2 immediately, I didn’t have time to forget any of the stages, they liked the same things, tv, films etc. Hard work at times of course, two in nappies isn’t cheap either, but totally worth it, my two are grown up now 20 & 19, they are very close brothers. They can’t remember a time of not being together. Good luck.

Thanks for the replies! We have decided to go ahead, bring on baby number 2 ☺️

Congratulations

Very happy to you and wish you all the best! Enjoy the baby years while they last!

Congratulations.
We have twins so slightly different.
But I'm sure it will be great in the long run.

Congratulations!
I have a 7 month old DD and was thinking I would like another soon but I felt torn too. I'm starting to think maybe I should go for it haha! 🥰

Ah thats lovely. The same happened to me, had DD then when she was 7 months found out i was pregnant with DS. I can remember saying to my then H that I was going to have an abortion as there was no way I was ready for another baby. Within a few days I changed my mind. Now DD is 18 and DS 17 and whilst it was tough at the beginning it has mostly been amazing. They are fantastic dc and I will be gutted when they leave to go to Uni this year and next!

It'll be fine. Good luck.