4th child abortion

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Hi I am 4 weeks with my 4th child. I feel awful stupid for having gotten into this situation. My oldest is 7 and youngest are 5(twins).I feel the age gap will be way too big if I keep this one. Financially, I will have to give up work which will put us under pressure. We will need a new car etc etc. I was really enjoying getting on with life and feel now If I go on with pregnancy, Il be thrown back into it and wont cope and it wont be fair on kids. Husband grand either way but hes gone 7-7 so doesn't impact him a whole lot really. i went for the apt and cried but just felt overwhelmed by it all. I am due to go back tomor and get tablet. Any advice?

Sorry to hear you’re in this situation. Are you sure an abortion is what you want? Do you just feel guilty for wanting one? You shouldn’t. Wanting to concentrate on the family you have and yourself is completely understandable.

But if you are having doubts you’re still very early. You have some time to work out exactly what it is you want. Don’t rush in to it. You can’t take it back.

I recently had one with an unplanned third. I found the process physically fine but emotionally hard even though I know it was the best thing for my family. It’s getting better three months on and I don’t regret it but it’s been hard to reconcile it with being a mother. So my advice is not to rush it

Do you want another child or not? You have choices, and whichever you choose it totally OK. As you're so early on, maybe take a few more days to think it over.

Hi, sorry you're in this situation....
Same advise as others really..make sure you give yourself time to think about what YOU really feel about the situation.
I am 8 weeks post termination with what would have been my fourth. Main reason was worry about the impact of another on my existing three. Youngest being 6 was also worried about age gap although I do have 7 year gap between 2nd and 3rd and they adore each other! So not sure why I thought that was an issue!
Everyone's situation is different so am not trying to sway you either way but I am really struggling mentally still and wish I'd given myself more time. Medical procedure physically was fine though.
Hope you can decide on the best choice for you x