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Sharing my 'positive' medical abortion story

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Pinkroom · 19/05/2022 19:55

Hi All,

Not posted before, however I must have read hundreds of threads on here over the last couple of weeks and it has been so helpful, I wanted to share my own story in the hope it will help someone else. Sorry if this is long!

I recently found out I was pregnant, unplanned. Long term relationship, committed, own house together etc I have one child as does my partner, but none together.
I decided for various reasons not to keep the baby, my partner would have been supportive either way, but I called NUPAS the day I got a positive test to get things started.

The hardest part of all this for me was the waiting. I luckily got a telephone consultation for a couple of days time, and they approved me for the pills to be sent in the post. I was 7 weeks at the time. The wait for them felt never ending, and of course I was reading all sorts of stories and really working myself up. I was also stressed about missing work and various other plans and commitments that I had coming up.
I had the phone consultation on the 12th May and they arrived the 18th (8+ weeks by this point)

I took the first pill on the 18th around 7.30pm, I didnt have any side effects and just got an early night.
I did feel nauseous the next morning, but that may have been the pregnancy itself so I had the day off work. I spent most of this day extremely emotional and stressed about taking the next lot of pills. I felt very lonely as I did not want to talk to anyone else about this, I did have a good talk/cry to my partner which made me feel a lot better, I think I was worried about the stories I had read and part of me wondered if I was doing the right thing, however I do think that was more hormones, as i do feel very confident in my decision.
I decided to take some ibuprofen around 7.30pm, had a shower and then inserted the 4 tablets vaginally around 8pm. I then stayed in bed with a hot water bottle watching TV and talking to my partner. The first few hours nothing happened so I tried to get some sleep.
I woke up at 11.30pm with some mild cramping, went to the toilet and passed some small clots and blood.

At this point the pain did get worse (I am a total wimp with pain!) I never have period pains but it felt like the very early stages of labour for me. Quite intense cramping but manageable. I was also feeling slightly nauseous at this point. I took 2 more ibuprofen at midnight. I tried to go back to bed but the pain was not shifting, so I went to the toilet at 12.30am and I passed what felt like a large clot. I didnt look at all I just flushed straight away.
At this point I did go a bit lightheaded and threw up, but then I felt instantly better. The pain went and I stopped feeling sick.
I went back to bed but felt a gush of blood around 1.15am went back to the toilet and I passed several smaller clots. I had mild cramps on and off and was up and down to the toilet changing pads until 4am but no more clots. By this point I managed to get some sleep and when I woke up at 6.30 the pain was gone.

Today I have had no pain, no clots, bleeding just like a normal period. I have been tired (but probably only as I didnt get to sleep until 4am!) I have stayed in the house but I have been up and about cleaning and baking as usual.

All in all I think I worked myself up so much about it, but it was no where near as bad as I was imagining. It was all over within a few hours, I wouldn't recommend started the second set of pills in the evening if you dont have too, but my partner had work early and I wanted him around just incase while I was going through it.

I know it's different for everyone but I was so worried and I really just wanted to reassure anyone that it really was perfectly manageable and over very quickly for me. It's only the day after so I am aware bleeding may get worse again etc but I do feel very relieved and that I made the right choice and I hope this reassures someone. I know it can be a very lonely time going through this.

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Gingergee · 19/05/2022 21:38

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have just taken my first tablet tonight after collecting the medication for NUPAS earlier in the week. I have been so nervous and have read some horror stories which have terrified me.

Pinkroom · 20/05/2022 10:20

Gingergee · 19/05/2022 21:38

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have just taken my first tablet tonight after collecting the medication for NUPAS earlier in the week. I have been so nervous and have read some horror stories which have terrified me.

I hope your ok. The stories online that I read really weren't reality for me, I worked myself up into a state over it and it really was ok. Here if you need a chat!

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Mammy12345 · 22/05/2022 10:36

Thank you for sharing. I have my 2nd consultation tomorrow. I suffer so badly from morning sickness and haven't left the bed in a week. Have lost about half a stone
Does the morning sickness go straight away.

Pinkroom · 23/05/2022 08:41

Mammy12345 · 22/05/2022 10:36

Thank you for sharing. I have my 2nd consultation tomorrow. I suffer so badly from morning sickness and haven't left the bed in a week. Have lost about half a stone
Does the morning sickness go straight away.

That must be tough, yes my symptoms went pretty much straight away, next morning I felt so much better, just tired. Few days after I really felt back to my normal self. Hope all goes well.

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Mammy12345 · 24/05/2022 15:20

Wanted to give an update
Took 2nd lot of tablets at 10am and had very mild cramping. I am lots of diarrhoea and vomiting and some dizziness. But 5 hours on I feel good

reetas · 24/05/2022 20:18

Thankyou for sharing your experience, this will really help someone in a difficult situation. I hope you recover quickly and take care of yourself.

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