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Advice needed!

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T122 · 09/05/2022 12:50

Hello, I recently had an abortion. I wanted to keep the baby but the person the baby was with didn’t want to, which I respect. He told me if I didn’t get rid of the baby he would take his own life. He told me if I got rid of the baby then he would support me during and after. He came to me to make sure I took the tablets and then shortly after I did left me to deal with the abortion on my own, in which I was I upset about doing and in a lot of pain. He has since told me he doesn’t believe I took the tablets (which he watched me do) and said he wants proof that the baby has come out of me, which I obviously don’t have. I feel like he backed me into a corner to get rid of the baby and that I had no choice. And now I feel more backed into a corner cos he doesn’t believe I have done it.

It’s just emotionally draining. And apart from blocking him if there’s anything I could do to help myself with how I’m feeling!

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Threebutterflies · 09/05/2022 15:14

Wow what a jerk ! I hope your not going to stay with him after this! I guess the only proof is a photo of the blood or wait to do a pregnancy test. Personally though I wouldn’t bother and tell him to get lost !

T122 · 09/05/2022 19:45

We’re not together. I found out when I was pregnant he was sleeping with another girl. I feel like he has manipulated me into getting rid of the baby and made out he was suicidal. I have sent him a photo of the blood but he still doesn’t believe me. I just feel so angry. His friends have made fake accounts on Facebook to give me shit over it all. I’m exhausted from it!

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Michellebops · 09/05/2022 19:51

I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Block him on all platforms and if he continues to harass you through other means, go to the police and make a complaint x

Threebutterflies · 09/05/2022 20:00

Gosh poor you. I was going to mention this in my first post so I’ll say it now . My ex wanted me to get 2 abortions which I did in the end. I now know it’s because he was with another women and obviously if I’d of had the babies she would have found out he was cheating . I didn’t want the abortions and now it’s even harder knowing his reasons why he was so against me being pregnant. So I completely know how it feels.
what he’s done with his friends to is disgusting. Your well rid of him and I hope you can put this behind you and find happiness. Do something nice to treat yourself and block him on everything x

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