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[Dontknowwhattodo77]

Not sure where to start. Basically just found out I'm pregnant. Me and dh have discussed we don't want any more children we have 2 ds. Dh is on the waiting list for a vasectomy. I'm not sure how I feel tbh. When I look at my youngest I don't think I can do it again, he was a horrid sleeper and we've not long found out he needs surgery on his heart. My eldest is great and helps out lots and is the best big brother. I'm not sure what I want from this post but I'm home alone with dc and dh won't be home for hours.

I’m sorry you are in this situation. No one on the internet can tell you what is right for you but it sounds like you are wavering towards termination. Most women in the UK who have terminations already have children. It’s a situation many women have experienced.

I know no one on the Internet can tell me what's the right thing to do, I've just took the test and it came back positive and dh won't be in till around 9 so I have a lot of time to think probably too much

Here for handholding OP if it helps til DH gets home. I know it's hard when your mind is spinning but I think the only way to know how you really feel is to step back from all the worries about practical stuff and whether you would manage and just try to sit with the knowledge. You don't have to do or decide anything now, today, you have time to think this through.

Sounds trite I know but take a few deep breaths and just try to settle on the fact that you need time to absorb the news before you start to even think about what you should do. A bit of self care is needed right now until DH is home, do for yourself what you would do for a friend who's just had a shock. We're here so you're not alone

I'm sorry you are going through this it must be a tough situation to be in

Try and take some time today for some self care and try not to stress yourself out

When partner is home just sit & have a really good conversation to work out what is best for you all as a family, and if you decide you don't want to continue with the pregnancy then don't feel bad if you have a termination if thats what is best for you ❤️

Can you call him or is he uncontactable? It sounds like you just need him to tell you everything will be ok as a starter.

I think if you know he knows you'll be able to relax a little.

Thanks everyone for the lovely comments.

My mind is racing and need to go collect eldest from school soon so hopefully I can stop crying long enough to do that.

Dh could be working anywhere I've given him a text to see when he will be home. Not heard anything so far yet tho.

I'm so sorry you're in this position.

I think you've posted this in the wrong place, maybe if you report your own post mods will move it to pregnancy choices? AIBU is a bit rough for a sensitive post like this.

Whatever you decide, you will make the right decision for you and your family, it sounds like you feel unable to go through with having any more and that's absolutely your decision to make and reasonable.

How are you doing OP? Hope you and DH have talked now and the shock has subsided a little

I'm doing OK, I think. We have spoke he was very relaxed gave me a cuddle and asked how I was. We're still thinking termination. Our youngest needs our attention as he could be called for surgery at any point.

I'm glad he's supportive, at least you don't have to make the decision alone. FWIW i completely understand your reasoning and think I would feel the same in your position, still not an easy decision I know