Like many of the people on here - reading these threads while going through my abortion really helped me so I wanted to share my story in the hope it might help someone else.
I’m a 36yr old single mum with a 13 / 14 yo. Sorry don’t know all the mumsnet lingo yet!
I’ve been with my partner almost 10 years and we’ve discussed that we do not want kids together. We don’t live together. The pill had been messing with my mental health so I contacted my GP and was added to the sterilisation list at the tail end of last year.
In the meantime my partner and I used condoms. We had one burst last year and took morning after pill all fine. One got “lost” in feb and again I took the morning after pill within 12 hours.
This time it didn’t work. Having been pregnant before I recognised the signs and knew as soon as my period was due I was pregnant. Called my partner and both agreed straight away without any discussion to abort.
Contacted GP who have me phone no for local sexual health clinic in Scotland.
Called them the thurs and got an appointment for the tues. on the Friday my OH flew to Rome for the rugby.
Did the call tues - medical history etc and was booked to go in for a scan / to get the pills the next day.
In the first call I was briefly asked my reasons.
Went in - had abdominal and vaginal scan and was told I was 5 and 1/2 weeks.
I’d worked out with the nurse in the first call dates for taking the tablets to fit around my kids routine. It was my sons bday that wend.
By this time I was having doubts about what I was doing. I’m a smoker and chucked cigs away, switched to decaf coffee. My head and heart were in two very different places.
On the Friday I took the anti sickness tablet when I woke up and took the first pill an hour later. No side effects.
That night I was at crazy golf for my sons bday and when I got home I’d started to bleed - just a little bit - I sobbed and sobbed.
That wend my OH went to Dublin - rugby again.
On the sat I was alone and the kids went to their dads late afternoon.
I got myself settled with my giant pads. Didn’t take any painkillers. Dissolved first 4 tablets in month. Got the “shivers”. When I tried to pick up my cup of water it was going everywhere as I was shaking so much.
Had a little bleeding but lighter than my usual period. Took the additional 2 tablets 4 hours later - again orally. No painkillers. Shivers started again. Went to sleep on couch - while watching motherland with my cat.
I bled for 7 days but really quite light. Minimal clots. Called clinic on the Sunday and lady said everyone’s different and fact I was bleeding meant it had likely worked.
Spent the next 2 weeks frantically on here everyday reading about failed / incomplete abortions. I’d had no pain, no cramping, minimal clots - how could it have worked?
Two weeks later I’ve done the “special/sensitive test” this morning and it’s negative.
So - despite my experience where I feel like physically I breezed through it - it’s worked.
Mentally it’s not been so easy.
I know I don’t want to have children with my current partner and it was the right decision but the flood of hormones has made me question so much.
I’m hoping sharing this will assure others that it’s not always very bloody and painful, although I know for some it is.
Just make sure you’ve really thought it through. I was so quick to want to crack on that I don’t think I took the time I should have and I regret that. I was just scared of it processing too far and me becoming attached, but I still did.
Love and hugs to anyone else in this situation. I’m more than happy to try and help if anyone does have any questions. Xx