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Failed Medical abortion- Twins

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HLRed · 31/03/2022 13:13

Hi,

I can’t actually believe what is happening in my life at the moment, I don’t think you could even write this as a story.

I am 38 years old with a 10yr old son, in a loving happy relationship of 17 years. Missed my period in January and test came back positive. Immediately we agreed not to keep the baby and I booked an appointment with MSI. 4 days later I miscarried and felt huge relief that nature had taken the decision away from me to terminate.

6 weeks later my period hadn’t returned and I felt nauseous so took a test- positive! (We had sex once after miscarriage and used a condom). Straight away booked another appointment with MSI to terminate. Didn’t know if this was new pregnancy or one I thought had miscarried so paid for a private scan and found out it was a new pregnancy, with twins.

The shock was huge and I couldn’t understand how i was so certain in my decision to terminate one but two was a whole different matter. My partner and I discussed and agreed we love our lives as they are, our son is happy and so we decided to terminate.

Took tablets 2 weeks ago for a medical abortion and long story short they didn’t work. Am now almost 12 weeks pregnant with twins and booked in for a surgical abortion on Monday. I honestly don’t know what to do. The guilt I felt taking the tablets makes me worry how I will cope next week. A tiny bit of me wants to keep them but it’s so small i don’t know if it’s enough. I have so many reasons I don’t want a baby (let alone 2) but I just can’t shake this tiny nagging guilt.

Sorry for the long post, it actually feels good to get it all off my chest. Xx

OP posts:
HLRed · 24/06/2022 15:15

Thank you everyone. It honestly does feel like a lifetime ago that I was in such a dark and lonely place going through the termination.

i too believe every woman has a right to choose, and you can change your mind too, like I did. Xx

OP posts:
sageandbasil · 24/06/2022 22:20

Lovely update I'm glad it all worked out x

Somethingneedstochange · 24/06/2022 22:39

sageandbasil · 24/06/2022 22:20

Lovely update I'm glad it all worked out x

That court ruling is heartbreaking. They need to be focusing on sorting out the gun laws and focusing on children already here. So they're not worried every time they're in school today might be the day they get slaughtered. Not focusing on the children yet to even be conceived.

Teapot55 · 25/06/2022 01:12

Er, wrong thread?

MsChatterbox · 25/06/2022 19:40

Amazing. So happy for you OP!

User3568975431146 · 25/06/2022 19:47

Sounds like these babies are meant to be. You're doubts are telling and who's to say that your lives and more importantly the life of your son won't be even happier with two fabulous siblings to love.

Teapot55 · 25/06/2022 23:27

Apart from those that naturally miscarry, all babies are meant to be. It's just not always convenient to have them.

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