Torn on abortion

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I am going to try to give all the details of my situation so I can get some opinions .
I am 32 and for years I have wanted a baby . I was with my ex for a year . He wanted a baby also , we started trying ( rushed in hindsight ). I got pregnant fairly swiftly and found out when had split up due to arguments / incompatibility.

He has other kids already . We planned a future , it didn’t happen . He would rather I have an abortion but will co-parent . I can’t see him having the time or money for another child and we can only really get on on a surface level if that makes sense .

I have booked an abortion and I am torn . I am single and live alone . I’ve always wanted a baby , but there are huge downsides . I have a stable job with good maternity benefits.

I thought I was okay with the abortion , but it seems awful to terminate what you wanted for so long ( and still want ). I’ve cancelled one abortion already .However , I fear how hard it will be and how people at work will question me or maybe judge me . I worry if I will ever meet someone again or if I am ‘wasting’ my last years to find a partner .

Can anyone give any advice ?

Screw others opinions and thoughts on you.

Make this decision based on:

• do you want this baby?
• can you support this child (money / house)
• do you have a support network you can rely on?

Do not base this decision on what you think others will think of you. It has to be purely your decision.

Can you afford a baby and give them the life you want to?

Personally if it was me I'd have an abortion.

But it's not me so only you can decide. Do you want a baby now? Are you prepared to be a single mother? Do you want this man in your life forever?

Good luck and don't be hard on yourself

I would keep the baby.
Screw judgements.

Think about the baby and its future. And it's not about you being a single mother. It's about the state of the world and the next 80 years.

Hiya
I am a single mum and I have also had 2 abortions. Neither is great to be honest. But it depends what support you would get being a single mum like your family and friends? And when he said he will co parent will that help or maybe make things worse with arguments etc ? Would you rather be a single mum or keep your freedom that you have now ? I am waiting for counselling now for my 2 abortions but at the same time I always feel a twinge of jealousy at women who are married and the kids have a loving dad. It’s so hard. Also don’t worry about what other people think as that’s what I did and now regret decisions I made .
Feel free to message me if you dance a chat. X

@Lonleygal

Hiya I am a single mum and I have also had 2 abortions. Neither is great to be honest. But it depends what support you would get being a single mum like your family and friends? And when he said he will co parent will that help or maybe make things worse with arguments etc ? Would you rather be a single mum or keep your freedom that you have now ? I am waiting for counselling now for my 2 abortions but at the same time I always feel a twinge of jealousy at women who are married and the kids have a loving dad. It’s so hard. Also don’t worry about what other people think as that’s what I did and now regret decisions I made . Feel free to message me if you dance a chat. X

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