Massive regret over termination of 3rd pregnancy

[WaterLilly42]

I had a medical termination last weekend and have felt so regretful since and can't stop thinking about it. I feel like I've made the worst decision of my life. I'm not sure if I'm going mad but I want to try again for another baby. Does it get easier? Am I going to be living with regret forever? I've realised I did want another child but panicked and felt guilty as husband really doesn't want to, I made the decision too quickly and didn't speak to anyone beforehand. I've made such a mess of things, I've been a complete idiot and can't stop crying. I'm trying to hold it together for my other 2.

I just so wish I could turn back time, would getting pregnant again help me get over this. Or should I just accept that's it and try and move on with my life?

Sorry you feel like this. You’re not an idiot at all. You made the best decision you could at a difficult time. Don’t be hard on yourself. A week isn’t a long time, your hormones will be all over the place.

What were your reasons for not continuing? Do they still stand?

I recently went through the same thing. I have mixed emotions. I long for that baby, would love to see what it looked like, feel awful I didn’t protect it. But in reality another child would have been incredibly difficult and my existing children would have missed out on a lot. We’re very stretched already… emotionally, financially, physically. I keep reminding myself of that and trying to look after myself emotionally.

I think it’s very normal to feel like this, it’s partly hormones for sure.

I had a termination only 2 days ago for very valid reasons and I’m feeling tearful and regretful, wondering why I made the decision I did.

I was told that hormones would be all over the place for a while. I inow why I wanted/needed the termination and just try to focus on those reasons.

I would say definitely not to make any rash decisions just yet, let your hormones settle a little and maybe re-visit it in 6 or so months time, that way you’ll know for sure it’s not just a normal response - which is completely natural!

Totally get you bit beating yourself up can’t change anything. It will get easier, you’ll learn to live with why you had the termination. Be kind to yourself

Why would you actively try to get pregnant again when your husband doesn’t want a third child!?