Medical abortion

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Hi I'm new to mumsnet and have found myself in a hard decision and looking for some help. I have found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant and unhappy about this unfortunately which has saddend me. I tried to conceive for years and it never happened for me. I have one child who is 8 years old and we are best friends. I'm 35 and 36 soon and after years of disappointment I thought that this news would be what I wanted but its come as a shock and not what me and my husband want anymore. I feel like the ships left the Dock and now feeling so guilty for wanting an abortion a word I never thought I'd say. We have so many plans of travel and stuff we want to do as a family of 3. It sounds mean but I am so focused on our life right now and feel that my mental health wouldn't cope with another baby. I have a supportive husband who has agreed with me its the best choice to not keep it.
I have booked in for a scan and a meet on Monday next week in line to take the abortion pill and the truth is I'm petrified of pain from it. All the horror stories I've read online is making me physically panic and shake and worry everyday I can't sleep or eat and I'm wonderin if anyone has been through this? It's not a subject you can speak about much and in public and I feel I will be judged but I wouldn't judge anyone myself.
Just asking for some advice and help if I can x

Hi I'm in a similar situation. My pregnancy is totally unplanned with a new partner but my home life situation is extremely complicated as I still live with my ex since we both own the house. That's why I've decided now is not the right time for me to start a family. I'm waiting for my referral through my GP and getting really nervous about the whole thing. My biggest concerns are the pain and also my partner wants to be with me every step of the journey and I don't know if mentally I can handle it

I am 27, never been pregnant or had children previously…

I have read a few horror stories online - but I have also read some who have described the pain as a bad period pain…

I took my first tablet yesterday and have had some mild cramping, but no bleeding or nausea, like I was warned of. I can update after I take tomorrows (I have a low pain threshold, and will give an honest review!)

Hope you are ok… It’s a horrible situation to go through 🙁

Thank you so much for commenting and that would be amazing if you could let me know how uou get on I would appreciate that so much. Fingers crossed all OK for you x

Hi. I've namechanged for this post- but I've been around a while.

I have had a termination, I was around 5 weeks also and was terrified. I just wanted to let you know my experience was nothing like I had read.

It was less painful that regular period cramps. No more bleeding than a regular period. The amazing nurse I saw was non judgemental and so kind to me. I am happy to answer any questions you may have.

I have had two abortions at around 6 weeks, there's very very little pain involved at that stage. It's all over quite quickly and then just a normal period. You will be fine, honestly, don't fret.

Honestly thank you so much for commenting I havent slept for nearly a week my app is Monday for first pull and scan I should be about 6 weeks then. I'm hoping I'm not in terrible pain some of the stories sound so bad and I'm terrified thank you for your words so nice to have some people comment and haven't had that bad time x

Thank you for your comment 🙏 very kind of you all to share your experiences it is terrifying to think of and honestly making me much calmer. Its already a hard decision without all the panic and stress on top x

Thought I would reply, as I know I was panicking a lot at the start of the process… I took the second lot of tablets (inserted vaginally rather than orally) at 10:00 this morning.

I had no cramps or bleeding at all for the first two hours…

I had some very mild cramping from 12:00 until about 13:30, and was thinking I’d have to insert the extra 2 tablets, as it was very manageable and I still had no bleeding at all…

At 14:00 (4 hours after inserting) I was debating topping up with the extra when I stood up to go to the bathroom and felt the sensation of bleeding. I went to the toilet I wiped away some thick blood (only a small amount on the tissue, not lots).

From 14:00 onwards I’ve been having some waves of more intense cramps… I have a very low pain threshold, but I have had bad period pains before, and I would say these are very similar (I am surprised at how similar to period pains the cramps are - not sure if that’s silly of me or not!)

I will keep you updated how it goes later on - but it’s been totally manageable so far! X

Thank you for this, really appreciate it sounds like your OK. Have you taken any painkillers? Fingers crossed it will be over soon for you sending you love x

I took 2 Diclofenac at 10:00, 2 Co-Codamol at 14:00… And then repeated in the late evening/before bed… I haven’t taken anything today!

At about 11pm I had some quite bad pain (I would say like very bad period pains) but managed to go to sleep. This morning when I went to the toilet, a fairly large amount of like clotted tissue came out in the toilet (I didn’t feel it much, just felt a bit odd and looked down and saw it come out!) so I think that must have been what the pain was last night!

Now I’ve just got some mild pain on one side, more achy than crampy…and just normal light bleeding… I’m hoping most of it is over with now!

Honestly I wish I hadn’t worried so much about the whole thing - it’s been much better than I ever expected - and I’m the most squeamish, low pain threshold, overthinking wimp ever! If I can do it, anyone can! 😂

Hope you are ok x

Thank you for being so honest you have helped me so much! I am nervous but sounds like you didn't need much pain relief so that's good. Can I ask how many weeks you were? Sounds like you didn't have too bad of an experience so I am happy for you. Xx

I was 7 weeks and 3 days, by the time I took the second lot of medication.

The booklet that the private clinic gave me said that under 6 weeks the bleeding can look like spotting, between 6 and 8 weeks usually is like a normal to heavy period, and 8-10 weeks usually would be very heavy with clots.

I would say that this was true in my case, as I was 7.5 weeks and I would say it was a normal to heavy period amount!

I think it’s normal to be nervous - I definitely was going mad with nerves! But honestly wish I hadn’t freaked myself out so much, as it was much better than expected! Xx

Aww thank you so much you have really calmed me down. I hope your OK and can relax a bit now and move on from this. Thank you so much I honestly mean it. 💗 x

I went for my first appointment today I am 6 weeks and tool the first pill. Very scared now for Wednesday bit hoping I will be OK. Very nerve wracking to be honest. X

Well done on taking the first step (for me - even taking that first tablet was completely terrifying - I had to pep myself up for about half an hour!)

You will be fine! Like I say, if I can do it, anyone can!

I am just lightly bleeding now - I had a few clots over the weekend - so I’m hoping most of it is over now!

Here for support on Wednesday ❤️

Thank you xxx

Hope everything went ok for you yesterday! X