I had a medical abortion at home today, and I've found the whole process to be upsetting and actually quite traumatic, although it was definitely for the best.
I've been in a lot of pain, and on and off the toilet all afternoon / night. My partner was looking after the children in another part of the house after school, which he complained about having to do as it meant he had to take a night off from work, but kept allowing them to run in and jump all over me when I was trying to rest. He did fetch me a hot water bottle and drinks when I asked, but he's given me no emotional support whatsoever, even after the kids were in bed he's sat beside me eating a curry, messing on his phone and ignoring me whilst I'm visibly in a lot of pain.
I got upset and asked him to just go to another room if he's only going to ignore me and he started shouting at me because he told me he's done everything he could to look after me (meaning he brought me a hot water bottle when I asked) but that he's not an emotional person and l shouldn't expect emotional support. He also complained when i asked if he could get up to do the school run in the morning. Is it normal for men to not understand that this can be an emotionally and physically hard time? and am i being unreasonable to think he could at least acknowledge what I'm going through ? Sorry if this is rambling