Baby's father sexting

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Wondered if anyone had any advice. I'm pregnant, only in my first trimester and only 21. This is my first baby. I am due to marry my baby's father (let's call him James) at the end of the March (not anymore). We have been living together for 2 years. Before we moved in together I had caught him sexting women online through various apps, I decided to stay with him and have been dealing with trust issues and anxiety ever since. He is so so excited about this baby and I know he will be a great father. But he isn't good for me. I caught him again last night, after all the promises he has given me, and I've realised he has a serious addiction. But it's not my problem is it. He is no good for my mental health and I deserve better than this. If I didn't have a baby I'd be gone. I'm just scared. How the hell can I have a baby alone. I'd let him come to the birth and scans etc but I'd have to move back home with my parents (in a very cramped place where my room is in the garage) and obviously not have his support 24/7 like I imagined my life having. I'm scared my baby will always love being with him more because he will always have a nice big home and money to spoil them and I won't be able to provide that for them :(. I also didn't know if I am entitled to anything, like I said my parents place is so small and cannot take me and a baby too. Is there anyone I can talk to for help?
Any advice or anyone who has been in this situation please help :(. I never pictured my life like this, I wanted to be a family.
Unless you believe staying with him is best.

What a horrible situation for you. Please don't stay with this man, he does not respect you at all. Your baby will love you regardless of the size of house you live in and, I'm not an expert on this, but I'm sure that you may be entitled to help with housing etc. You are 21 with your whole life ahead of you, you can study, retrain and end up with a good job - you do not need this man in your life.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, definitely not what you need when you’re pregnant either.
You’re not happy and you don’t deserve to spend the rest of your life anxious and wondering what he’s doing. Your only 21, whole life ahead of you.
It’s entirely up to you what to do but If it was me I’d speak to my parents and move back home. You are entitled to support and benefits. I’m pregnant and married but my midwife went through everything I’d be entitled to if I for some reason became a single mum so it’s maybe worth asking her for some advice or at least point you in the right direction.
Similar thing happened with my friend and his partner- she was pregnant and cheating but it was his baby. He stayed for the baby but she continued to cheat and kicked him out. He supports her by paying child payments and is still there for the baby. Your partner can still support the baby and be in its life without having to be in a relationship with you.
I hope it all works out for you!

You need to make a decision about whether you want to be a single parent or whether you can get a termination. You're going to end up alone anyway, it's just whether you do it now with your dignity intact and your mental health ok or not.

In your position I would have an abortion without any doubts. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Others would make a different decisions however. So make the decision with your eyes wide open.

@UnderTheSea20k

You need to make a decision about whether you want to be a single parent or whether you can get a termination. You're going to end up alone anyway, it's just whether you do it now with your dignity intact and your mental health ok or not.

Unfortunately I agree. I very much doubt this cheat will a) stay around or b) be a good involved father.

Why will he always have a nice big home? Is he significantly older than you?