Not sure about abortion

[Startingagain10]

I was with my ex for a year. We spoke about children and he said he wanted one one day with me . We split up due to arguments and a week later I found myself pregnant . We got back together then he ended it again . I am 32 .

I am so torn as I have always wanted a baby, but the thought of being tied to my ex ( who does not want / love me ) , is so difficult . I can manage on my own , I am independent .

He said he would support me , but I feel tremendously let down . He will support the baby I know but to deal with him is going to be hard .

I am only 4 weeks , can anyone give any advice ?

No one can advise you what to do, this is your decision and your only.
What about writing a list of pros and cons for each and see where you are at the end of that?

Your still young so have time to have another baby, however you do have to factor in timing in starting a new relationship and getting to the point of having a baby.
Also if he did step up and help parent you could end up with 50/50. Are you happy for your dc to be away from you so much?

It's a tough choice, but ultimately one one you can make, don't be pressured by anyone else's opinions. They don't have to live with the decision.

I’m not sure if this is what you want to hear but it’s my experience. I have just had a medical abortion and I genuinely feel like I have made the biggest mistake of my life. Please think long and hard about how you will feel after and not just how you feel now. That is what I did and I’ve now got to live with the lifelong consequences.

I would find it awful to embark upon the mammoth and beautiful task of raising a child without someone I was in a loving relationship with - and even worse if they are around but we don't get on well or they have totally different ideas of how to do it. That sounds awful to me cos you're doing it alone basically but you can't even do it totally your way. You are both tied together for ever and you won't feel free. There will be other opportunities. Hard decision though I know and only you can make it. No one i know who has has one regrets it. x