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What to do

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whattodo1239 · 20/01/2022 20:07

I've just found out I'm pregnant with what would be my third child and I don't know what to do. We got 'carried away' on NYE but I took the map the next day and my DH finally booked himself in for a vasectomy.

I toyed with the idea of having a third last year but I think it was my biological clock screaming 'last chance' as I'm 40 this year and I/we came to the decision that we're really happy with our two, life is good, we're getting some freedom back, we've only got another 18 months of spending a huge amount of money on childcare, we don't want the ridiculous car. We got a puppy instead!

The initial reaction to the positive test wasn't joy. It was fear and disappointment. But I'm not sure I can have a termination. I don't have a problem with them, I've had two before but I was young, not in stable relationships, nowhere near ready. Now I have a nice house, a great DH, two lovely children... it feels like the easy way out and I worry I'll regret not seeing the pregnancy through in three years time when if I'd kept the baby things would be getting easier.

But all the reasons we didn't want another still stand.

I'm not really looking for an answer. Just needed to get it out.

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