Please tell me your termination experience

[Northerngal02]

Hello,

I'm booked in for a couple of days. Waited 10 days in total form speaking to GP until appointment. Think the waiting has made it worse, as I really don't know what to expect. I'm worried about the pain and how long the bleeding will go on. No support from the dad as he turned very nasty and went mia the day I told him I was pregnant. I've now blocked him as he has been very hurtful and utterly selfish. Didn't once even ask how I was, just said he 'couldn't cope with it. It wasn't planned.
I will be early on enough for medical termination (tablets)

Please don't judge me or try to change my mind on this thread.

Thankyou in advance x

@Northerngal02

Hello,

I'm booked in for a couple of days. Waited 10 days in total form speaking to GP until appointment. Think the waiting has made it worse, as I really don't know what to expect. I'm worried about the pain and how long the bleeding will go on. No support from the dad as he turned very nasty and went mia the day I told him I was pregnant. I've now blocked him as he has been very hurtful and utterly selfish. Didn't once even ask how I was, just said he 'couldn't cope with it. It wasn't planned.
I will be early on enough for medical termination (tablets)

Please don't judge me or try to change my mind on this thread.

Thankyou in advance x

Sorry you're going through this - I have not had a termination in the way you have described so I cannot offer any advice unfortunately.

You may get more luck asking this question in the "pregnancy choices" forum. Maybe ask admin to move your post there?

Good luck and I hope all goes well x

Hi there, @Northerngal02 - we hope you don't mind but we've now moved your thread to our Pregnancy Choices board and we hope you get some useful advice and support here.

@Northerngal02 I had a medical abortion on the 2nd dec well that’s when I took the first pill & took the others on 4th about 27 hours after the first I started bleeding but nothing major but felt very nausea’s. Skip to the 4th and I inserted the other 4 tablets about an hour and half after I got up to use the toilet and noticed I was bleeding more as I went to get up I felt like something else was coming so sat on the toilet for a good 2 hours until all the clots had passed and the bleeding slowed down the cramps weren’t awful but I did take a cocodamal and had my hot water bottle I was around 6/7 weeks and I honestly didn’t even think I’d passed the pregnancy as they all just looked like clots you lose on your period was nothing that looked anything different to a clot I took an actual shop test yesterday and it was completely negative so it must of worked although I’m still spotting and have been since the day but it isn’t as bad as the horror stories you read online honestly I was a nervous wreck I put it off so much over what I’d read.. here if you need a hand hood

Hi there,

I can't offer any advice but just wanted to say I'm in the same position as you and feel the same way.

I've waited 16 days from finding out and have an appointment tomorrow. It has been hanging over me all over Xmas etc.

I've had 2 medical abortions and they were pain free. I was on a ward with some others and we all bonded really well. There was no judgement and I didn't regret it. Felt a bit sad after but I think it was just hormones.

I had a medical termination at 6 weeks around 8 years ago. I was emotional, mainly the hormones, I think. I don't remember much in terms of pain other than it being like a particularly painful, heavy period.

It's not an event I look back on with any particular sadness. I sometimes look back and wonder briefly what might have been but with no real sense of loss or sadness. It was the right decision for me at that time.

I had a medical termination 2 years ago...i was 5 weeks and 5 days.. the care i received was amazing..the nurse i saw who scanned me was so lovely..i had one year old and a 3 year old and i was just not ready for a third child.

I had a week off work (my boss was lovely as were my small team who i told). The pain was quite bad but painkillers and a hot water bottle helped.

Bleeding was heavy and clots for around 6 hours then was just like a period.

Mentally it affected me a lot more than i thought it would and coupled with lockdown i really struggled over what wouldve been my due date and then the year anniversary. I have since sought counselling which helped enormously.

Sending to you op xx

I had a medical termination at home earlier this year. After reading some horror stories online I expected it to be awful. However pain wise it wasn’t bad at all. I did take all medication you could as a I feared it would be bad so maybe this masked it. I inserted the second lot of tablets at 9 and I didn’t start to bleed or pass clots until around lunch time the next day. I worried it hadn’t worked but I had a scan as I was worried and it had. I did feel extremely tired and weak though so if you have any other young children I would recommend having someone to look after them. Hope all goes well for you x

Hey @Northerngal02
I had a medical abortion around the first or second of Dec
I took one pill to stop the pregnancy and three pills and hour later to push out the pregnancy, then another three after that. I was really early like 4 weeks I could barely see it on the scan. I bled almost immediately after I took the last batch of pills but it was just like a period and no clots. The bleeding lasted only for that night then I started spotting for about a week afterwards still no clots… it was very very light. I went for my checkup and the scan showed my uterus had opened and the baby was gone so they gave me amoxicillin pills. After I took those my bleeding got really heavy like a bad period.. and the cramps were terrible way worse than the abortion pills. But it only lasted for about a week. Now I’m still bleeding from the time I took the pills but it’s very very very light just like spotting. Hopefully the bleeding stops soon.
I wish you the best x!

I hope everything goes well for you. I had a medical termination 10 years ago. The second tablet kicked in quickly - I think they said 1-2 hours but it was 30 minutes. We were stuck in traffic and I had to get out of the car and into the nearest restaurant as I had painful sickness and diarrhoea when it did. So being able to take it from home would have been a godsend.

To be honest, I was in a lot of pain for a few hours. And then it passed. The next day, I saw the sac come out.

Emotionally, it took me about 6 months to a year at least to process. But of course it was the right decision. I do sometimes try to work out how I could have made things work at that time. But every scenario is a bit shit and a struggle, rather than the joyous version of parenting I'm having right now.

Oh and if you get codeine as a painkiller (I can't remember), make sure you take a laxative and have bran flakes! That stuff is awful!

Hi all
Thankyou for your kind comments. I had my appointment on Thursday. Scan showed I was seven weeks along at this point. Would've been less but had to wait 10 days in-between seeing gp and appointment.
I took the second lot of tablets yesterday, 4 instead internally at home. And within 2 hours the cramping and bleeding began. The pain was xtreme for about 4 hours until the pregnancy passed. Today its just like a normal period. No pain.
I'll be honest, it was a awful experience. But I don't regret it, I know it was the right thing to do.
I've been given this baby, I'm just giving it back for now and saying I'm not ready for them just yet. x

Sorry, I didn't see the original post date. Hope you're ok and have got a nice hot water bottle and some comfort food in. I found a diary really helpful to process it all xx