Unexpectedly pregnant. Please hand hold.

[TwoPurpleChimps]

I have no one to speak to about this in real life, and would really appreciate a hand hold.

I found out yesterday that I am five weeks pregnant. DH and I have religiously used condoms, so this is a total shock.

I have three children already, two at primary school and one who has just started high school. My eldest is hard work and very demanding, and life is generally pretty hectic. We live in a rented house, without much space, and our financial situation is not great. My DH has two older children from a previous relationship. We've been together 13 years, married for 10.

I just do not know what to do. I'm 36 now, and while I know lots of people have babies at this age, I really thought my having babies days were over.

I'm so torn. I have googled non stop, and I know BPAS don't operate in my area and accessing my GP is nigh on impossible. How else can I access/discuss termination?

I would really appreciate any support or insight. As I say, I have no one I can discuss this with IRL and DH is very much "whatever you decide"... Though I know that he definitely didn't want more babies.

Oh help!

I just found out today so I'd imagine about 4 weeks. I'm scared if I go ahead it will ruin the boys lives a little as in I'd be caught up with baby, exhausted all the time. Also our house is tiny but we could work on saving this year and moving in the future.

I'm also scared to the termination, as in physically the pain and bleeding. I also have COVID at the moment..least it gives me a few days to think things through while I isolate. What is your dp feeling?

Thanks so much to everyone who has taken the time to post on here and share your own stories and support.

After very much soul searching we have decided to continue with the pregnancy. I'm just taking some time to get my head around that, and all that it means for us.

Good luck to the others on this thread who have this tricky decision ahead. It's a horrid position to find yourself in.

@TwoPurpleChimps that's great you have made your decision. Congratulations! Really happy for you, enjoy your pregnancy x

We had decided to terminate and had started the process, due to take first medication on Thursday. I was really happy with the decision for a few days and felt a weight lift but really struggling today...can't stop crying. Not sure if it's hormones or second thoughts. Dp has said he will obviously support me either way but if his choice he wants a termination.

Oh @oopswhatdoido you poor thing. I really feel for you. It's a horrible, horrible situation to be in. Do you have anyone in real life who can offer an impartial ear/ support?

Are you able to take a little longer to think it through?

Sending lots of hugs your way(whether they are Mum's netty or not).

Yeah I do. I have told a couple of friends and my mum.
I really am so scared to push it out any longer. I very scared of the actual process and just feel prolonging will make it worse.

@oopswhatdoido I've been thinking of you lots over the weekend. I wonder how you're getting on? I'm pleased you have some people supporting you in real life.