I’m so sad, need some support.

[Nahhh]

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. I must only be 4 weeks and a few days. It’s a complete shock. We religiously used condoms. DP is now going to get the snip.

He’s a good man but due to previous involvement with children’s services we would have to undergo all kinds of assessments to live together as a family and even then I’m not sure we would achieve this outcome.

I have terrible anxiety and I can’t subject myself to some agency digging around in my private life.

I just feel devastated. I have always been against the idea of an abortion but now it feels like my only choice for my own well-being.

Does anyone have any advice as to what I need to do, what I should expect, etc?

Thank you

Hey❤️ @Nahhh
Only you can decide what best you want to do with your body. Any choice you make will be easier to deal with once you know it’s what you really want. And we are here to support you❤️ I wish you the best xx!

Hi. I’m bumping my own thread as I really need a bit of a handhold. I’m expecting my tablets in the post today. My mind is made up that this is the best decision but my heart is hurting and I feel so guilty.

I’m also scared, of the blood, of pain, of what I might see.

I’ve had a medically managed miscarriage before and I believe the second lot of drugs you take for a termination are the same. They made me feel awful, I was shivering, aching, unable to stay awake and then trying to deal with everything. I’m frightened

Please don't rush into any decison, it sounds as though its early days so you have time to consider options.

Without knowing details its hard to know the extent of his previous involvement and why children's services would not be in favour of the idea of you both raising a child together so its difficult to comment. In my profession I've worked alongside families who have worked closely with social services and the child protection register has served its purpose and 12/18 months down the line with intensive support, full engagement form both parents, the father being integrated into the family home they have been able to live as a family unit and no longer have social services involved. I have also however worked with people who have not engaged in the process and ultimately children have been removed from their care. Social services really are not there to make things difficult, they can actually be a huge support.

Which ever decision you make, only you know what is best for you and your partner. Please talk to a councillor if you're concerned about how the termination will effect you physically and mentally. I hope it goes as well as it possibly can for you