Hey guys
So I haven’t been with my partner for long, only a few months. We both got tested for STDs and HIV before becoming intimate. I had my last period on the 4th of November and my calendar was saying I was ovulating between the 11th and the 15th. We had sex on the 17th and the 19th. After that I just kinda knew I was pregnant. A week and a half later I started getting a bit sick. Mood swings were high, tender breasts, nipples were hard all the time and I was always tired. My period is always regular and when I missed it on Monday I knew. I decided to take a test yesterday and it came out positive.
I called him to come over and showed him the test and he was shocked but I was surprisingly calm. I think probably because I knew I was pregnant before I took the test. The problem is neither of us are in the capacity to have a baby right now. And I just know if I continued I would do it alone. I’m 21 and a student at a university in a country that’s not my own, him and I stay in the same accommodation.
We’re both too young right now and if I went home with a pregnancy my African parents would literally stroke. I’m due to fly home on Saturday. We both decided the best thing is to abort and immediately after he left yesterday I went to the clinic. Luckily in this country abortion is easier than at my home country.
Anyway, I got there and they checked on the sonogram and we couldn’t see anything but they said it’s probably cause it’s really really early, so we ended up doing an early detection test and it came out positive.
I ended up getting the process and starting the process last night and since then I have been having my normal period blood and normal period cramps but no clots. This is worrying me because I read around and most people said they have clots.
I asked my nurse and they said it’s normal because it was an early pregnancy.
I also read around about continued pregnancy after failed abortion and I just can’t have that.
I’m going home on Saturday and I have my check up on Friday for the cleansing. If I go home and I’m still pregnant i definitely know that my mother and aunts will be able to tell and that won’t be good.