TWW when pregnancy is not planned

[DaisyMum40]

I'm posting here and not sure if I'm really in the right place. I'm just looking for a safe space to talk about waiting for AF to appear when you're not planning a pregnancy. There's lots of TWW threads and posts elsewhere but it's all geared towards getting the BFP - I'm waiting for AF!

I started talking about my situation elsewhere but will summarise here.

My last period was six weeks ago, continued BFN on tests, so I've been focussing on trying to spot either AF or pregnancy symptoms. I think as a result I've missed (ignored!) some very obvious OV symptoms this week. We've had sex three times this week, withdrawal being our only attempt at preventing pregnancy. I just can't believe I allowed myself to miss such obvious OV signs and put myself right back in the frame for an unplanned pregnancy. I feel really stupid and don't have anywhere to outlet while I'm waiting for my period to hopefully arrive.

Any reason why you didn't take the morning after pill?

You need to take the emergency contraceptive pill within 3 days (Levonelle) or 5 days (ellaOne) of unprotected sex for it to be effective – the sooner you take it, the more effective it'll be.
www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/emergency-contraception/

Thank you for the info, our last sex was 48 hours ago, the other instances being at the beginning of the week and last Friday so the effectiveness window is diminishing. Regardless, I've ordered a map to collect from the pharmacy tomorrow morning.

I'm also going to make an appointment for something like the coil once I get this next period and I can identify a cycle again. And condoms until then!

I've got my prescription confirmed for collecting tomorrow morning. I'm still not out the woods yet though, if I've already ovulated this week then it's highly unlikely to help. Not to mention that I've not had a period for six weeks, a pregnancy still can't be fully ruled out.

I've been all over the place this last 7 days, my heads not in a great way just now to be honest.

I had a long chat with DH, I hadn't felt able to open up to him about it yet. He's been really great, says if I am pregnant then it's not a disaster and we'll manage fine, not to worry about it. And if I'm not, then we'll both look into long term options like the snip for him and/or coil for me. So I do feel a lot more relieved this morning. I took another test, just so I can get my map, and it was negative. Which I expected, it's just the possibility of getting a positive in 10-14 days time I'm waiting for now.

So I am guessing to be about 10DPO now, I took a First Response test which was negative. I had some spotting on Sunday which I wondered might be implantation, if it was, I'd have thought it might show up on a positive by now?

I've got another test to take early next week if AF still doesn't show up.

How are you? Have you taken another test?

Been taking tests every few days, all negative. And still no period either! Two weeks after what I so strongly believed to be ovulation and unprotected sex... no period and no pregnancy! Two months since my last period now, I'm not sure whether to phone the doctor again or wait till after the Christmas holidays.

Got fed up spending money on expensive tests so been trying cheap strips. An extremely faint hint of something caught my eye this morning, is this evap/indent? I've not much experience with these type of tests so really not sure.

I can see something faint. But, unless you continued to have unprotected sex since you first started this thread (and ovulated in the past 10 days or so), I would expect a much darker line if you were pregnant as a result of sex 20+ days ago.

That's what I thought too. As I've still not had a period I obviously didn't ovulate when I thought I did (despite all the body signals!). I've just been trying tests 2-3 times a week. Frustratingly there's nothing else I can do until AF ever decides to appear!

Me again, just hanging on with still no period and negative pregnancy tests (although I haven't done one for over a week). Still a very healthy sex drive, lots of wet cervical mucus so goodness knows what's going on with ovulation. Got doctors appointment next week, I am desperate to get to the bottom of this.