Unplanned and stuck

[ccbt98]

Hi everyone

I recently found out I'm 5/6 weeks gone (im 23 OH is 26) we've been together almost 3 years and we are so in love but we didn't plan to have a baby for at least 2 years

We live in a wonderful rented property but no money to buy still and I know that will push us back. We are both in steady jobs but I hate my job and was already looking to move so now I feel stuck that I won't be able to leave this job until mat leave and I don't know if I'll cope 😫

Money wise we're okay but could be better, the fear of not having security from our own home is making me anxious as we've always been told to buy first.

I do want children but I am slightly nervous it's the wrong time. I am only 23, I'm worried about pregnancy weight and how my body will look after. Not to mention how frightened I am for birth

I think I'm just looking for some advice and what you would do? I just don't want to regret my decision but my gut is telling me two different things :(

Xxx

I didn't want to leave you with nobody replying.
I had my first child when I was 19, second at 25 and I'm currently 5w with a 3rd pregnancy and we aren't sure what to do.
We felt complete with 2 and if I choose to continue this pregnancy it'll hit my career pretty hard.
I guess, I just wanted to reassure you that at the age 19 I wasn't ready but we coped, I wouldn't recommend it but we got by.
Please take time to consider your options, I've felt a bit rushed to decide and I've had to remind myself I do have some time to think.
You can contact bpas and have counselling I believe?
Do you have someone you can trust who could help you through and maybe weigh everything up? Generally just someone else to lean on a bit who won't try and sway you either way?
It's totally fine whatever you decide and you have every right to put yourself first here.
Be kind to yourself

@durdledoo aw thank you darling! Yes just so hard isn't it so scary!
My partner os so supportive and I know he would be supportive whatever decision we come too but I'm feeling more excited to keep it now as we know financially it's not as bad as we once thought!
I just am so frightened to commit! Not sure how to get over that!

Hope you come to a decision aswel my love, it's so hard but we'll both be fine whatever we choose xxxx

Hello, I got pregnant at 21 and was going to have a termination because that's what I thought would be best for my career etc but I had the appointments and just couldn't bring myself to go ahead with the termination. Take your time making the decision, I made my decision at the 11th hour and I am so glad I took my time with my decision.

Sending hugs