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Positive test. Such bad timing

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durdledoo · 22/11/2021 11:07

Words fail me.
3 days late, took a test or which is positive.
I already had two DC (9&5) and I'd be due end of July.

I'm a fully booked wedding videographer. Next year I have 36 weddings with my busy season being when I'm due. I'd have to hand money back to most of my clients and to be frank I don't have it.

This is my main concern. My business has just began to take off and this would throw a huge spanner in the works.

I don't feel like me and my partner cope all the well with the two children we have. We are stretched as it is I guess, both work a lot and feel like we just don't have the extra time to give another child. We would cope, but I'm not sure it's the best idea.

Anyone been faced with this? I feel pretty bleugh about it. Like yes we could technically do this but I'm not sure we want to?

Of course we'd love the baby and give it a happy home but I'm just about 4 weeks gone and a huge part of me thinks this is potential for life but I'm not sure I want to do this all again.

What do you do when you just don't know what to do?

Anyone been here, how do you even start to decide? Logically we are fine as we are and this would be a huge hurdle but then we could absolutely financially do this and be okay- my mental health with lack of sleep and juggling 3 kids whilst my husband works the hours he does is a big concern though.

Big love to anyone going through this right now. It absolutely sucks :(

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ShinySquirrel · 22/11/2021 11:11

I think you have your answer. If you aren't sure you want to do it all again, you don't have to.

Nothing in your post says 'I am happy to be pregnant and I really want another baby'. It's the opposite.

It's ok to have an abortion. You didn't plan this.

Coldblueskies11 · 22/11/2021 12:30

I am also in a similar situation, also due in July and feel very similar to you. I'm currently trying to work out how to decide, its very difficult to say the least. It can be hard to work out what is the best thing to do.

durdledoo · 22/11/2021 15:35

Thanks @ShinySquirrel .

I'm feeling a bit cold about it all. I only found out this morning and just felt like "oh ffs. Not this" not sad, no happy just another hurdle I have to jump either way. It's been a tough few years and just feel a bit miffed to be dealt with having to even make this decision.

Part of me has had flickering thoughts of how we could make it work, how it could be nice even. Whether it would be a girl or a boy and envisioned us with a third. Then another part just thinks this is really not what I wanted, I would've planned it if this is what I wanted and feel totally irresponsible having a baby just because I happen to have found myself in the very early stages of pregnancy.

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durdledoo · 22/11/2021 15:36

@Coldblueskies11
I'm sorry you're also in this situation. It's just terrible. I hope you manage to find a way to decide. I really don't even know where to start. Flowers

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