Looking for support - MA

[ElleBelle88]

I've just taken the first pill of the medical abortion and am just looking to hear from others who have been through this. I was feeling dread and anxiety from the moment I saw the positive test but also struggled with the decision. I have a 20 month old son and would love a sibling for him but the timing was all off. My partner and I haven't been in a good place almost since our son was born. My partner has also recently become unwell (this often happens when I am going through a period of stress) so isn't able to be there for me. Just feeling a bit flat and worried about the next few days and would love some support

Hey, hope you’re ok. I had a medical abortion 4 weeks ago. It’s not an easy decision to make, but you can get through this! The second meds can start to work pretty quickly, I spent most of the day in bed with a hot water bottle. Please feel free to message me if you want a chat! Sending hugs

Thanks so much for the reply. I took the second lot of pills on Sunday and passed the sac. I am still bleeding but the pain was manageable. Overall I felt relieved and a bit better now, still have some thoughts of what if but from my partners response (or lack of support whatsoever) I know it wasn't the right time

I’m glad to hear that you’re ok. I’m still bleeding four weeks on, nothing major aside from the odd day of cramps and clots, but mainly light so it’s more irritating than anything at this point.

The best advice I can give you is to allow yourself to grieve if and when you feel you need to. Your hormones are going to be all over the place right now, and at the end of the day, it’s still a loss regardless of the circumstances. If you feel like crying, cry! Don’t beat yourself up about it, give yourself grace.