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Does it get easier ?

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Rose925 · 15/10/2021 18:58

Me … again !
I’m now 6 weeks post procedure and I’m struggling more and more .
I’ve had multiple hospital appointments for my daughter this week and the department she was going to was next to the maternity ward so I was constantly having pregnant people thrown in my face constantly . And the fact I would of been 12 weeeks and would of been due up that hospital this week for my first scan just makes me ten times more agonising .
My heart aches and hurts every time I think about it . Talking doesn’t help , therapy doesn’t help . I just honestly don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel . And In a weird way I don’t want there to be as I feel I don’t deserve to be happy and living my life as I used to

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Twizbe · 15/10/2021 19:08

I'm sorry you're still struggling.

Who have you spoken to about how you feel? Therapy can take time, but you do deserve to be happy and to live life like before.

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Rose925 · 15/10/2021 19:24

I’ve had therapy for years but it isn’t helping me with this at all just makes it worse . I wish it didn’t but I feel like I’m wasting money on nothing x

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Helpsurprise21 · 15/10/2021 19:47

Flowers it will get easier in time.

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AutumnGrace22322 · 20/10/2021 00:26

Hi @Rose925

How are you feeling today? Im sorry to read that you are struggling. I feel you.
I am now 2 & 1/2 months on and i can say that it does get better with time. Most days i am ok with my decision and some days the sadness and pain hits me. And thats okay.
I find that allowing myself to sit in the grief and hold space for those feelings at the time, really helps. Yes, it hurts and it feels awful, but i need to feel them if im ever going to heal from it.
For me its just a part of the process, but i know i can not sit in that spot forever.
I hope you can be kind to yourself today. Know that you are a good person who went through a difficult time and deserve peace from your trauma.
Sending you love and light today xx

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ED81 · 20/10/2021 07:58

Have a look at ‘Stillwaters’.
It helped me massively. I can’t recommend it enough. It got me through a very difficult time. They are an organisation who help women in crisis with pregnancy, miscarriage or abortion. They offer counselling - which is free.

Just google search ‘Stillwaters Birmingham’. Please at least look at their website.

xx

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GoT1904 · 21/10/2021 15:27

Hey Rose, we buddied up for our procedures and I regret mine too. :( my partner didn't want the baby, but I did. And was going to. But when my landlord decided to sell the house I panicked and terminated. Now I'm settled in a new house I am struggling very much. Two of my closest and oldest friends are pregnant and whilst I'm over the moon for them, it just reminds me of what I have lost. My precious little baby.

I had a termination once before and didn't regret that at all. But this one I very deeply and bitterly regret. I'm only checking these boards now because I'm laid in bed mourning my baba. Xxx

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