I could desperately use some advice right now. Tonight I found out I am pregnant, totally unplanned. I've been waiting to have a coil inserted, unfortunately my gynecologist had to cancel my appointment 3 times and in between it appears we haven't been careful enough, I am judging myself rather harshly right now so please be gentle. I've always known I have space in my heart for another child, the problem here unfortunately is I don't know if our circumstances have enough space for another child. I live in a 3 bedroom house with my husband and 3 boys, it would definitely feel cramped to have another child. Perhaps the main issue is that two of our sons are on the autism spectrum. My youngest copes amazingly and is managing in mainstream school, routine and managing emotions can be a difficulty to him. My middle child on the other hand has far more complex needs, he is non verbal mostly and has to use a specialised buggy due to sensory issues affecting him too much to be able to complete a journey on foot. He is in a special needs school and requires a lot of extra care. I wouldn't change any of my children or wish their autism away, it is who they are and wishing it away would be like wishing for a different child. I can't say it is easy though, if by chance we were blessed with another child with additional needs I fear we would be unable to cope. I'm completely numb and in shock at the moment and I have no idea how to proceed, my husband is of the opinion a termination would be best but the thought of it is painful. In terrified if I can't bring myself to go through with a termination our relationship will be damaged, I feel I'd be forcing him into a situation he's clearly not comfortable with. I'm also terrified of continuing with the pregnancy, with consideration of lack of bedrooms and children with additional needs. I'd really appreciate an outsiders opinion. Thank you for taking the time to read.