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Has the medical abortion failed?

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LolaF · 08/09/2021 00:03

Hi everyone. A week ago with a very heavy heart and after running out of the building then going back in I had a medical abortion at Marie Stopes. I was 7 weeks 1 day pregnant. I am a single mother of two and got pregnant on birth control and I just felt I couldn’t continue with this on my own. I took mifepristone at the clinic and then misoprostol the next day at home in my cheeks. I started bleeding almost immediately after the tablets dissolved, was very sick, chills, nausea, diarrhea, cramping, bleeding and passed couple of small clots but don’t know what they were. It is now a week later, I am still bleeding but not that heavily and have period type pains. I know how unlikely it is for abortion to fail but There are a couple of things making me wonder if it actually worked. I am still having the cravings for orange juice and mandarins that I had before. Still very thirsty all the time. And I keep feeling these slight flutters in my lower belly when I lay down usually when relaxing. It is not wind. I have two children and it is the flutter I used to feel when pregnant with them. I think I must be going mad and it’s not possible. I would be 8 weeks tomorrow in theory. With my second I felt flutters from 11 weeks. I know it takes weeks for the pregnancy hormones to leave your body so marie stopes won’t do anything unless I have a positive test after 3 weeks. That is still 2 weeks away. I don’t really know what my question is, I’m just a bit scared and I have read the other threAds here about failed medical abortions so I know there are quite a few ladies who experienced it. I just don’t know what to think…..

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66babe · 08/09/2021 09:04

There are 4 steps of self assessment and you have already cleared 2 of them
You had a response within 24 hrs
You have bled for a minimum of 4 days
Symptoms of pregnancy should disappear after a week
Your pregnancy test at 3 weeks will be the final step
Please don't overthink this , be kind to yourself

LolaF · 08/09/2021 10:50

Thank you. I am trying to keep busy and not think about it too much.

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dodette78 · 11/09/2021 02:33

Sorry you are having to go through with it.
Try and get yourself to do something that keeps you busy for the next two weeks.

I had MTOP at 7+5. Passed what I had thought was products. Clots and bleeding but I had expected it to be worse. 2 days down the line it was like a light period and I continued to bleed for two weeks.

Cravings, nausea gone but boobs remained tender and got these "flutters" and later, pain that was not a cramp but like - something not right feeling.

3 weeks test positive after several minutes.
Abdo US- reassured all good but uterine lining on the thick side. 20mm. Given antibiotics for a weeks with plan to test a week on that.
Made me mad thinking that will be 5 weeks in total!

Pain increased overnight but not to severe but more as a "this is not right" sensation. Had to hold my belly when laughing. Kept pestering them.

Got an internal US exam today and there was a sac hiding. No viable pregnancy just sac.
Had the EVAC today and am so glad.

The limbo is crazy. Sorry I got lost in my ooint! So I did a few presentations for work and also went walking every day whilst waiting for the 3 week test. I challenged myself and by the end I did 25000 steps a day.
Kept me busy. Kept me active.

Good luck
And trust your body!!! You know what feels right and what doesn't. Go back if you need. Love it when a man tells you "you are prob going to get your period". How would they know..??

Good luck xxx

LolaF · 11/09/2021 19:30

Thank you for sharing your story. After a week of cramping the pregnancy came out. And unfortunately I wasn’t on the toilet at the time and saw it up close. I know now for sure that it’s done but I wish I never saw what I did. Every time I close my eyes it’s there…

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dodette78 · 11/09/2021 22:24

Oh @LolaF
I saw the products, too.
I know what you mean.
I'm very sorry. Try to compartmentalise, if at all possible. Do not overthink the "what if"s! The hormones obviously aren't helping at the moment.
But be sure your test is negative and tour body feels normal! See my story above. They were convinced that all I am experiencing is just a bit of tissue.
I knew something was not right!
Hope you recover soon. Take care c

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