Pills by post help !!

[Rose925]

Hello ladies , No judgment please ! I’m 5 weeks pregnant and waiting for a medical abortion ( pills by post) my consultation is Friday , but my worry is how long does it take for them to arrive ? Mentally I’m struggling with panic attacks and hysterically crying , I cannot go on much longer I cannot abort past 6 weeks due to my beliefs . Has anyone been able to push it quicker ? It’s bank holiday too this weekend so it delays post ! I’m even that desperate I’ve contemplated asking to go private to see if they can push it quicker if I pay .
Any help would be really appreciated !!

Thank you for your reply, I’ve been told that collection is possible by a friend who recently had a termination the nearest clinic is Bpas but they’re waiting time was well into September which I’m not comfortable having a termination so late so I decided to go with Marie Stopes which waiting time was slightly less which would bring me under the six week cusp of my ‘limit’ Due to personal reasons. In terms of therapy I already have a therapist that has been a godsend to me recently I finished a session with her today and it has given me a lot more clarity on the situation in terms of my decision. TheSituation with the father is toxic to say the least, we have no contact for the last two weeks. He has six children with four different women ( red flags I know !) I would be left on my own to deal with bringing up a child which I have already done at 16 with my daughter who is now 13, I’ve owed it to myself to never be in that situation again.‘s it has been a hard decision but the thought of having someone so narcissistic in my life for the rest of my life is not worth it to me, xxx

Hey lovely, didn't want to read and run 💕 My experience (this time last year), the pills were posted out the same day as the consultation.
Telephone call Wednesday.
Tablets arrived Thursday.
The entire process was "over" by the Friday night.
Couldn't fault the process at all. Very efficient.

Big hugs xx

Thank you so much for your reply, you are also lovely it makes you feel less alone in this situation. That’s good to know about how efficient they were with you it’s the waiting time for me which is the worst part, if it was 100% sure that I would get them next day I would feel a lot less stressed about the situation. The fact it is a bank holiday to just throws everything up in the air with when they will arrive. IHave my appointment at 8 am Friday so I’m hoping I have time on my side to guarantee them posted out the same day, or I will drive to collect them which ever is the quickest. The only other issue for me is whether I should tell him what is going on he doesn’t even know I’m pregnant, he is very mentally abusive and controlling and I fear that he will add a lot more disruption into my life if he does know than not knowing, But then my conscience kicks in and feel sorry for him that he is unaware of this whole situation but if I’m not keeping it then surely there is no point in disrupting his life by telling him. If anyone has been through a similar situation please let me know what you end up doing in terms of going about it alone or not telling them xxx

@SudokuZebra

Thank you it makes it feel a lot less lonely being here having people to talk to, I’ve got my friends who are aware of the situation but it’s easy for them to tell me what I want to hear. When they aren’t going through that situation themselves, it’s almost a comfort to know I’m not the only one going through this at this moment in time. Xxx

@Rose925

Thank you so much for your reply, you are also lovely it makes you feel less alone in this situation. That’s good to know about how efficient they were with you it’s the waiting time for me which is the worst part, if it was 100% sure that I would get them next day I would feel a lot less stressed about the situation. The fact it is a bank holiday to just throws everything up in the air with when they will arrive. IHave my appointment at 8 am Friday so I’m hoping I have time on my side to guarantee them posted out the same day, or I will drive to collect them which ever is the quickest. The only other issue for me is whether I should tell him what is going on he doesn’t even know I’m pregnant, he is very mentally abusive and controlling and I fear that he will add a lot more disruption into my life if he does know than not knowing, But then my conscience kicks in and feel sorry for him that he is unaware of this whole situation but if I’m not keeping it then surely there is no point in disrupting his life by telling him. If anyone has been through a similar situation please let me know what you end up doing in terms of going about it alone or not telling them xxx

There is no reason for them to delay sending them out to you, I am confident they will be sent out same day via Royal Mail tracked. It is very discreet packaging, just a plain brown box, so it won't be obvious upon delivery what's inside. I got a text from Royal Mail when it had been posted which was good peace of mind that the pills were on their way to me. As for the boyfriend - I would say that if telling him puts you in any form of danger then there is no need to tell him. Honesty and transparency are key in healthy relationships but (having had a mentally controlling BF myself in the past) I fear he may just use this against you and potentially try to coerce you into keeping the pregnancy? Have you got friends or family you could confide in so that you don't feel this is one big secret? You could maybe go through the procedure once the pills arrive at their house so that he isn't around? Xxx

@pcofmushu fortunately for me he doesn’t live with me and lives over an hour away he was in Marbeya the last week from what I’m aware off side there is no way that he would try and contact me any time soon part of me wants to tell him that the rational logical side of my brain knows for the best that he doesn’t know like I said previous he already has six children that she barely sees with four different mothers so I would literally just be another number to him , I deserve better than that and no child deserves to have a half absent father my decision wasn’t easy but I know it’s for the best and I standby my decision so the decision itself is not a worry to me it is him and how he would react to finding out that I’m pregnant xxx

Marbella * sorry I was using the microphone option on my phone haha !