Going to have abortion - feeling extremely sad

[JJA122]

Hi everyone,
I’m a mum to a beautiful 1 year old boy and I have just found out that I am pregnant again, and while I want more children in the future I don’t think that it’s right to have another baby right now. I am so busy with my son and I have quite severe anxiety that I have just started getting help for, and I don’t think I would cope with 2 children. Since finding out I’m pregnant I have had a few panic attacks and have been constantly stressed, not sleeping, having all sorts of worrisome physical symptoms of stress. Once I decided on an abortion I felt relief but also extreme sadness, I can’t stop thinking about the baby that could be and I feel so guilty for not continuing my pregnancy. I’m terrified of regretting my decision even though I don’t think I will, and I am scared to feel sad about this for the rest of my life. My termination is booked in for one weeks time, but has anyone got any positive termination stories or any advice to help me feel better?
Thank you :)

I know how it feels - you feel torn in two directions, knowing that it's the right thing to do, but feeling sad as well for "what might have been". I've been in that situation, and I'm sure that most women who have had a termination would feel the same way.

Mine was totally necessary, I didn't really have many options, and I knew it was for the best. My abortion was very straightforward, and by the next day I was feeling fine physically, but of course I felt sad emotionally. I thought I'd always be sad and remembering . But time has gone on, I subsequently had my two much-loved children , life moved along.

It's been many years now - sometimes I wonder "what would they have been like - they would have been x age now". But it doesn't prey on my mind at all. I did what I had to do at that time, and I never wished I hadn't done it.

I'm sure you'll be fine - you've got your little boy to take care of, life will go on. Take care of yourself - let yourself feel sad for a little while and then move ahead. Best wishes to you xx

What is your relationship status?