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Unsure what is going on?

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confusedlots · 01/07/2021 20:35

Never thought I'd be in this situation, but here I am. 41 years old, 2 young kids, and really felt my family was complete. A stressful couple of months combined with low mood has resulted in me taking my pill erratically and not really getting around to sorting out a suitable alternative. I know that sounds mad when I write it down, but intercourse was so rare that it never even crossed my mind that I could be pregnant at 41.

I've had some pretty strong pregnancy symptoms, tender breasts, nausea, metallic taste, and I did a test on Monday which said I was 2-3 weeks post conception. I obviously freaked out, but the dates would fit.

I had a clinic appointment today and the staff were so lovely, i had a scan because I couldn't remember when my last period was. But they couldn't see anything on the abdominal or vaginal scan? The last time I had intercourse was 3 weeks ago, so I must be 5 weeks? Has this happened to anyone else? And what was the outcome? I have to go back next week again, but I was so geared up for it all being over in the next couple of days that my head is in a melt now. I don't know if I'm pregnant or not? But surely I'd have had a bleed if I'm not? The pregnancy test in the clinic today was positive, but faint. The waiting is awful, I guess I just wondered if anyone had been through a similar situation and could share their experiences?

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66babe · 02/07/2021 19:02

It may have been a chemical pregnancy or .. just did not progress ... just have your rescan and take it from there
And ... please don't waste money on those clear blue tests , they are so inaccurate , the ones in the £ shop are just as good

confusedlots · 24/08/2021 11:41

I can't believe it's now 8 weeks on from my positive pregnancy test and that only today things have been resolved (hopefully). It's been a very stressful summer and I found it difficult to come back to my post when i didn't know how things were going to turn out.

I feel I need to write this down to get things out of my head because I obviously can't speak to many people in real life about it.

After a second trip to the clinic, they still couldn't see a sac and sent me to the early pregnancy clinic for a more detailed scan. They did see a sac (singular) and I headed back to the clinic for the tablets and the second set to take the next day at home.

I had very little cramping, some bleeding but not as much as I was expecting. I told myself it was because I was so early in the pregnancy and kept my fingers crossed it had worked. After 2 weeks I still felt pregnant, got a positive test on the low sensitivity test and went back to the clinic where they scanned me and could still see a sac but the pregnancy was not viable and so I got a second round of tablets. She also said she saw another small sac which was confusing as no one had seen that before.

Unfortunately the second set of tablets didn't work and I got referred back to the early pregnancy clinic where they clearly saw 2 sacs but no viable pregnancy and I got booked in for an MVA. It was unpleasant but pretty quick and I managed ok with gas and air. They scanned me afterwards and couldn't see any remaining tissue so I really hope this is the end of this journey for me.

I can't believe how unbelievably stressful and worrying it has been and I've hated having to lie to people as to where I was going when needing to arrange childcare last minute for appointments.

I'm also confused about the second sac as no one saw it on the first scans but it was clearly there on the later scans, but I just need to be grateful now that fingers crossed this is the end of a long road for me, and I hope I never have to go through anything like this again.

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