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Medical abortion

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kca123 · 29/06/2021 14:04

Hi all,

I had a medical abortion 10 days ago, at 8 weeks pregnant.

I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old, and my husband and I made the decision together, as it wasn't the right time emotionally, financially and a number of other reasons.

I was completely fine with my decision, even after taking the first tablet, until I accidentally saw the fetus on the bathroom floor. Since that moment I have not stopped thinking about it.

Up until that point, I was quite disconnected to the pregnancy and had no hesitation in my decision. Since seeing the fetus, it has affected me greatly, and while I try to get on with life because 2 kids under 4 is crazy, most nights I cry myself to sleep. I can't stop thinking about it and how I just decided that this baby wasn't to be.. I feel grief and despair, especially when doing everyday normal things with my other 2 (such as cuddling them to sleep, helping them paint, watching them play) while knowing I will never do that with this one.

Has anyone been in a similar position, and does it get easier? X

OP posts:
ED81 · 29/06/2021 18:35

@kca123. I’m sorry you are going through this. An abortion can be quite traumatic. And obviously seeing the foetus has been incredibly difficult for you.

Have you thought about post abortion counselling? Everything is still very new at the moment but it might help sort out your thoughts and feelings.

Go easy on yourself.xx

66babe · 02/07/2021 19:10

Please contact your provider - usually Bpas or Marie Stopes or Nupas and ask for some counselling
They have excellent listeners who can explore exactly how you are feeling just now
I promise you it does get better

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